36 Questions to Bring You Closer Together

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you're going to say? Why?

4. What would constitute a perfect day for you?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose?

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

11. Take four minutes and tell you partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be?

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

14. Is there something that you've dreamt of doing for a long time? Why haven't you done it?

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

17. What is your most treasured memory?

18. What is your most terrible memory?

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

20. What does friendship mean to you?

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people's?

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

25. Make three true "we" statements each. For instance, "we are both in this room feeling..."

26. Complete this sentence "I wish I had someone with whom I could share..."

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

28. Tell your partner what you like about them: be honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you've just met.

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven't you told them yet?

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner's advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

译文：

1. 在这个世界上，如果你可以随便选一个人跟你一起共进晚餐，你会选谁？ 2. 你想过出名吗？通过啥方式？ 3. 在打电话前，你一般会练习怎么去表达吗？为啥？ 4. 你觉得在你心里，完美的一天是怎样的？ 5. 你上次一个人唱歌是什么时候？那对着其他人唱歌呢？ 6. 假设你可以活到 90 岁，那么在 30 岁之后，你更倾向于保持身体的年轻，还是思想的年轻，来度过余下的60年？ 7. 你对你以后将怎样死去，有没有预感？ 8. 说三个我们的共同点。 9. 你这辈子最感激的是谁，或者什么事？ 10. 如果你能改变你过去的经历，你想改变哪件事？ 11. 用四分钟，尽可能详细地讲讲你从小到大的经历。 12. 如果明天醒来你能获得一种新的才能，你希望是什么？ 13. 如果水晶球能告诉你关于你自己、你的生活、未来或其他任何事情的真相，你最希望知道的是什么？ 14. 有没有你长时间以来梦寐以求的事情？为什么你没有去实现？ 15. 你觉得自己最成功的是什么？ 16. 你觉得友谊最珍贵的地方是什么？ 17. 你最宝贵的记忆是什么？ 18. 你最可怕的记忆是什么？ 19. 假设一年后你会突然去世，那么你会改变现在的生活方式吗？为什么？ 20. 友谊对你来说意味着什么？ 21. 爱情和喜欢，在你生活中大概是什么样的角色？ 22. 说出5个关于我的好的特质。我也说5个关于你的。 23. 你家里人之间亲密吗？你是不是觉得你的童年比其他大多数人更幸福？ 24. 你觉得你和你妈妈的关系怎么样？ 25. 各自做三个围绕“我们”的事实陈述。例如，“我们在深夜一起聊天”... 26. 给你一句句子，你把它补全：“我希望能有人和我一起分享......” 27. 如果你要和我成为亲密的朋友，对你来说，最需要知道关于我的事情是什么？ 28. 告诉我你喜欢我的什么；这次要非常地诚实哦。 29. 和我分享一件生活中令你尴尬的事情，可以是最近的事情。 30. 你上次在别人面前哭是什么事情？那独自流泪又是什么时候呢？ 31. 告诉我，我有哪些地方已经让你开始喜欢上了。 32. 对你来说，有没有一些事情是严肃到不能开玩笑的？ 33. 假设你今晚就要死了，而你也再没有机会和其他人交流，那么你最后悔没有告诉别人的是什么事？为什么还没有告诉他们？ 34. 你的房子着火了，你的所有东西都在里面。在救出了你的亲人和宠物之后，你有时间能够最后一次冲进去安全地救出最后一样物品，那将会是什么？为什么？ 35. 在你的所有家人中，谁的离去会是最令你痛苦的？为什么？ 36. 说一个你自己私人遇到的困扰，你说完我也说我的，然后我们互相给对方想办法。