恋爱的36个问题
这种方式的核心思路是：两个人之间互相坦白自己内心隐藏的脆弱能增加相互间的亲密感。（不过其实愿意进行这种活动的双方本质上已经具有一定的相互吸引了）
下面是对这些问题的翻译（分为三个部分，依次深入）：
Set One
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
1、如果让你在这个世界上选一个人和你共进晚餐，你想要邀请谁？
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
2、你想出名吗，在什么方面？
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
3、在打电话之前，你是否会预演一下要讲的话，为什么呢？
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
4、对你来说，“完美”的一天需要包含哪些内容？
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
5、你上一次为自己或为他人歌唱是什么时候？
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
6、如果你能活到90岁，但是在后面的60年里你只能选择保持30岁的身体或者30岁的思想，你会如何选择？
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
7、你是否有过关于如何死的神秘的预感？
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
8、说出三个你和对方可能具有的共同点
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
9、你生命中最想感激的是什么？
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
10、如果你可以改变你成长的过程中的任何东西，你会选择改变什么？
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
11、用4分钟尽可能详细地向对方讲述你的人生故事
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
12、如果你明天醒来会获得一项品质或者学会一项技能，你希望是什么？
Set Two
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
13、如果现在你面前有个水晶球，它知道你关于你自身，你的生活，你的未来或者任何其他事情的答案，你会问它什么？
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
14、是否有什么是你梦想很久但是一直没去做的事情，为什么一直没有去做？
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
15、你人生中最大的成就是什么？
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
16、你认为在一段友谊中最重要的是什么？
17. What is your most treasured memory?
17、你最珍藏的记忆是什么？
18. What is your most terrible memory?
18、你最糟糕的记忆是什么？
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
19、如果你知道一年之内你会突然死去，你是否会对现在的生活做出任何的改变，为什么？
20. What does friendship mean to you?
20、友谊对你来说意味着什么？
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
21、在你的生命中，爱情和亲情的分别扮演着什么角色？
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
22、相互分享自己认为的对方具有的五个正面的性格特点
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
23、你的家庭是否亲密和温暖，你是否感觉你的童年比大多数人都幸福？
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
24、你觉得你和母亲的关系如何？
Set Three
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ... “
25、造三个关于“我们”的真实的句子，如：“我们在这个房间里都觉得…”
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... “
26、完成这个句子：“我希望有个人可以分享…”
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
27、如果你打算和对方成为亲密的朋友，分享你认为对方需要知道的事情。
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
28、跟对方说你喜欢他的点。这个回答必须非常诚实，你需要回答一些你一般不会对刚刚见面的人说的话。
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
29、向对方分享一个你生命中最尴尬的时刻。
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
30、你上一次在另一个人面前或者一人人哭是什么时候？
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
31、告诉对方你已经喜欢上他的地方
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
32、你觉得有什么事情是太严肃而不能被开玩笑的？
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
33、如果你今晚就会死去，但是没有任何机会再和任何人沟通，什么事情是你最后悔没有告诉别人的，为什么之前不说？
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
34、你的房子起火了，你所有的东西都在里面。在已经救出了你的爱人和宠物以后，你还有时间去抢救最后一样东西，你希望抢救什么，为什么？
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
35、在你的所有家人中，谁的死将最令你不安，为什么？
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
36、分享一个你的个人问题并向对方求教他将如何处理这个问题，同时让对方形容，你对选择的这个问题的感觉是怎样的。
下面是对这些问题的翻译（分为三个部分，依次深入）：
Set One
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
1、如果让你在这个世界上选一个人和你共进晚餐，你想要邀请谁？
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
2、你想出名吗，在什么方面？
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
3、在打电话之前，你是否会预演一下要讲的话，为什么呢？
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
4、对你来说，“完美”的一天需要包含哪些内容？
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
5、你上一次为自己或为他人歌唱是什么时候？
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
6、如果你能活到90岁，但是在后面的60年里你只能选择保持30岁的身体或者30岁的思想，你会如何选择？
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
7、你是否有过关于如何死的神秘的预感？
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
8、说出三个你和对方可能具有的共同点
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
9、你生命中最想感激的是什么？
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
10、如果你可以改变你成长的过程中的任何东西，你会选择改变什么？
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
11、用4分钟尽可能详细地向对方讲述你的人生故事
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
12、如果你明天醒来会获得一项品质或者学会一项技能，你希望是什么？
Set Two
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
13、如果现在你面前有个水晶球，它知道你关于你自身，你的生活，你的未来或者任何其他事情的答案，你会问它什么？
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
14、是否有什么是你梦想很久但是一直没去做的事情，为什么一直没有去做？
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
15、你人生中最大的成就是什么？
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
16、你认为在一段友谊中最重要的是什么？
17. What is your most treasured memory?
17、你最珍藏的记忆是什么？
18. What is your most terrible memory?
18、你最糟糕的记忆是什么？
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
19、如果你知道一年之内你会突然死去，你是否会对现在的生活做出任何的改变，为什么？
20. What does friendship mean to you?
20、友谊对你来说意味着什么？
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
21、在你的生命中，爱情和亲情的分别扮演着什么角色？
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
22、相互分享自己认为的对方具有的五个正面的性格特点
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
23、你的家庭是否亲密和温暖，你是否感觉你的童年比大多数人都幸福？
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
24、你觉得你和母亲的关系如何？
Set Three
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ... “
25、造三个关于“我们”的真实的句子，如：“我们在这个房间里都觉得…”
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... “
26、完成这个句子：“我希望有个人可以分享…”
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
27、如果你打算和对方成为亲密的朋友，分享你认为对方需要知道的事情。
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
28、跟对方说你喜欢他的点。这个回答必须非常诚实，你需要回答一些你一般不会对刚刚见面的人说的话。
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
29、向对方分享一个你生命中最尴尬的时刻。
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
30、你上一次在另一个人面前或者一人人哭是什么时候？
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
31、告诉对方你已经喜欢上他的地方
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
32、你觉得有什么事情是太严肃而不能被开玩笑的？
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
33、如果你今晚就会死去，但是没有任何机会再和任何人沟通，什么事情是你最后悔没有告诉别人的，为什么之前不说？
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
34、你的房子起火了，你所有的东西都在里面。在已经救出了你的爱人和宠物以后，你还有时间去抢救最后一样东西，你希望抢救什么，为什么？
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
35、在你的所有家人中，谁的死将最令你不安，为什么？
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
36、分享一个你的个人问题并向对方求教他将如何处理这个问题，同时让对方形容，你对选择的这个问题的感觉是怎样的。
