哈佛幸福课观后感(二) Questions Create Reality

 focus on and cultivate the positive.
what made them succeed despite the unfavorable circumstances?
resilience适应力- positive adaptation in the context of significant adversity or risk.
optimism
had faith and sense of meaning in life. idealistic = realistic
pro-social behavior, helping others
focus on strengths rather than deficiency
future-oriented,set goals
has a role model
social support
 a certain question direct us to a certain part of reality.
What is the question mostly asked by people? - what is my weaknesses?
strengths, passions, virtues, seem not exist.
How could a person who don't appreciate his virtues experience high level of self-respect?
Questions create reality.
appreciate, to grow.
appreciate the good, the good grows.
when we take the good for granted, it depreciate. just like what happened after the honeymoon phase.
ps, what we need is grounded self-confidence and benevolent happiness, not narcissism.
We see what we are looking for and we miss what we are not looking for, even though it is there. Our experience of the world is heavily influenced by where we put our attention.
 
we are going to do a lot of believing in ourselves.
Marva Collins is not the Pollyannish "feel good".(不是过分自我感觉良好。Polyanna)
She is tough and demanding, get the work done while be respectful. to be nice and be liked.
take responsibility for yourself. No one is coming.
总结：
1.问题创造事实。积极的问题能够引发积极的思维角度，进而创造积极的事实。
2.求仁而得仁。不在我们的目的范围内的事物即使就在眼前我们也看不到。要找到幸福首先要追寻幸福而非追寻痛苦。
3.相信自己，赞赏自己，自我悦纳，全然接受自己。
4.自己为自己负责。