self-assertion
第三篇：Companionship of Books 以书为伴（节选）
Companionship of Books
A man may usually be known by the books he reads as well as by the company he keeps; for there is a companionship of books as well as of men; and one should always live in the best company, whether it be of books or of men.
A good book may be among the best of friends. It is the same today that it always was, and it will never change. It is the most patient and cheerful of companions. It does not turn its back upon us in times of adversity or distress. It always receives us with the same kindness; amusing and instructing us in youth, and comforting and consoling us in age.
Men often discover their affinity to each other by the mutual love they have for a book just as two persons sometimes discover a friend by the admiration which both entertain for a third. There is an old proverb, ‘Love me, love my dog.” But there is more wisdom in this:” Love me, love my book.” The book is a truer and higher bond of union. Men can think, feel, and sympathize with each other through their favorite author. They live in him together, and he in them.
A good book is often the best urn of a life enshrining the best that life could think out; for the world of a man’s life is, for the most part, but the world of his thoughts. Thus the best books are treasuries of good words, the golden thoughts, which, remembered and cherished, become our constant companions and comforters.
Books possess an essence of immortality. They are by far the most lasting products of human effort. Temples and statues decay, but books survive. Time is of no account with great thoughts, which are as fresh today as when they first passed through their author’s minds, ages ago. What was then said and thought still speaks to us as vividly as ever from the printed page. The only effect of time have been to sift out the bad products; for nothing in literature can long survive e but what is really good.
Books introduce us into the best society; they bring us into the presence of the greatest minds that have ever lived. We hear what they said and did; we see the as if they were really alive; we sympathize with them, enjoy with them, grieve with them; their experience becomes ours, and we feel as if we were in a measure actors with them in the scenes which they describe.
The great and good do not die, even in this world. Embalmed in books, their spirits walk abroad. The book is a living voice. It is an intellect to which on still listens.
Have you ever walked away from a situation and wished you handled if differently? At times, do you feel that others overlook your rights? Can you recall losing your temper and not getting your point across effectively? If you have answer"yes" to any of these questions,you may feel challenged in the area of assertiveness.Assertiveness is the ability to clearly represent your thoughts and feeling in mutually respectful way. It doese not infringe on the rights of others or rely on guilt for results. Assertiveness starts with the premise that each human being is given rights that do not depend on status or performace.You have the right to to express your perspective. You have ther right o assume personal responsibility and to decline responsibility for others. How you govern yourself in relation to these rights is important for "valued" communication.
Communication is valued when both parties,the sender and the receiver,are respected. There are three primary styles of communication:passive,assertive,and arressive.The difference between passive,assertive, and aggressive communication rests with the exchange between parties and quality of the message. Passiveness diminishes your capacy to be heard and validated. Aggressiveness exerts differential power to promote a certain and result that is not based on mutual respect. Only assertiveness respectfully engages both parties for valued communication.
In order to achieve assertive communication,one needs a level of self-confidence,self-worth,and self-awareness. Self-confidence is projected,not performed. It has to radiate from within and does not rely on others. Self-worth comes from believing that you are a worthwhile individual who deserves the best that life has to offer. Self-awareness develops from personal monitoring. One learns of strengths and weaknesses by making internal assessments. Self-assertion is a natural process for individuals who are confident and aware. In essence, you must have confidence within before you can demonstrate it in the midst of others.
Companionship of Books
A man may usually be known by the books he reads as well as by the company he keeps; for there is a companionship of books as well as of men; and one should always live in the best company, whether it be of books or of men.
A good book may be among the best of friends. It is the same today that it always was, and it will never change. It is the most patient and cheerful of companions. It does not turn its back upon us in times of adversity or distress. It always receives us with the same kindness; amusing and instructing us in youth, and comforting and consoling us in age.
Men often discover their affinity to each other by the mutual love they have for a book just as two persons sometimes discover a friend by the admiration which both entertain for a third. There is an old proverb, ‘Love me, love my dog.” But there is more wisdom in this:” Love me, love my book.” The book is a truer and higher bond of union. Men can think, feel, and sympathize with each other through their favorite author. They live in him together, and he in them.
A good book is often the best urn of a life enshrining the best that life could think out; for the world of a man’s life is, for the most part, but the world of his thoughts. Thus the best books are treasuries of good words, the golden thoughts, which, remembered and cherished, become our constant companions and comforters.
Books possess an essence of immortality. They are by far the most lasting products of human effort. Temples and statues decay, but books survive. Time is of no account with great thoughts, which are as fresh today as when they first passed through their author’s minds, ages ago. What was then said and thought still speaks to us as vividly as ever from the printed page. The only effect of time have been to sift out the bad products; for nothing in literature can long survive e but what is really good.
Books introduce us into the best society; they bring us into the presence of the greatest minds that have ever lived. We hear what they said and did; we see the as if they were really alive; we sympathize with them, enjoy with them, grieve with them; their experience becomes ours, and we feel as if we were in a measure actors with them in the scenes which they describe.
The great and good do not die, even in this world. Embalmed in books, their spirits walk abroad. The book is a living voice. It is an intellect to which on still listens.
Have you ever walked away from a situation and wished you handled if differently? At times, do you feel that others overlook your rights? Can you recall losing your temper and not getting your point across effectively? If you have answer"yes" to any of these questions,you may feel challenged in the area of assertiveness.Assertiveness is the ability to clearly represent your thoughts and feeling in mutually respectful way. It doese not infringe on the rights of others or rely on guilt for results. Assertiveness starts with the premise that each human being is given rights that do not depend on status or performace.You have the right to to express your perspective. You have ther right o assume personal responsibility and to decline responsibility for others. How you govern yourself in relation to these rights is important for "valued" communication.
Communication is valued when both parties,the sender and the receiver,are respected. There are three primary styles of communication:passive,assertive,and arressive.The difference between passive,assertive, and aggressive communication rests with the exchange between parties and quality of the message. Passiveness diminishes your capacy to be heard and validated. Aggressiveness exerts differential power to promote a certain and result that is not based on mutual respect. Only assertiveness respectfully engages both parties for valued communication.
In order to achieve assertive communication,one needs a level of self-confidence,self-worth,and self-awareness. Self-confidence is projected,not performed. It has to radiate from within and does not rely on others. Self-worth comes from believing that you are a worthwhile individual who deserves the best that life has to offer. Self-awareness develops from personal monitoring. One learns of strengths and weaknesses by making internal assessments. Self-assertion is a natural process for individuals who are confident and aware. In essence, you must have confidence within before you can demonstrate it in the midst of others.
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