abt the Blue Valentine

feel so depressed after watching this movie twice ....
it occurred to me to think sth negative..
is it the final appearance of love?
when facing the reality,only having love is not enough..
a person who is realisic met with the other who is romantic...vehement quarrells cant stop in life.."be a man"is what the Cindy shouted..absolutely he can't reach her expectation..she is sick of his role of drinker every day....
resbonsibility is what he lacks in material way..then contradictions increase silently..