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如果你是边缘性人格类型，你可以用以下量表更具体的了解自己
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用一下评分标准给每个声明打分 1=完全不符合我 2=大部分不符合我 3=有一点符合我 4=基本符合我 5=大部分符合我 6=完全符合对我的描述 一、Abandonment and Instability(ai)遗弃/不稳定 1.I am fearful that people I love will die or leave me. 我害怕我爱的人会死去或离开我。 2.I get clingy with people when I feel that they are going to leave me. 当我感到某人将离开我时我会紧紧黏住他/她。" 3.My support system feels unstable. 我的支持系统感觉不稳固。 4.I find myself falling in love with people who aren't capable of or willing to commit to me. 我发现自己会爱上不能或不愿意对我承诺的人 5.People have always moved in and out of my life. 人们一直在我的生活中进进出出。 6.When someone I love pulls away,I feel desperate. 当某个我爱的人离开时，我会感到绝望。 7.My obsession with the idea that my lovers will leave me drives them away. 我的“我爱的人会离开我”的强迫观念把他们赶走了。 8.The people I have the closest relationships with are unpredictable.Sometime they are there for me,and sometimes they are not. 与我有最紧密关系的人是不可预测的。有时候他们会在我身边，有时候不会。 9.I feel like I need people more than others do. 我觉得我比别人更需要他人。 10.I feel like I will be alone toward the end of my life. 我觉得我将独自一人走向生命的终点。 二、Mistrust Abuse(ma)不信任/虐待 1.I have the expectation that people will hurt me or use me. 我觉得人们会伤害我或利用我。 2.People close to me have consistently abused me. 我身边的人一直虐待我。 3.I know that it is only a matter of time before the people who are important in my life will betray me. 我知道我生命中重要的人早晚会离开我. 4.I must protect myself and be on guard. 我必须保护自己、保持警惕。 5.People will take advantage of me if I am not careful. 人们会利用我，如果我不小心的话。 6.I regularly set up tests for people to determine whether they are really on my side. 我经常测试人们来判断他们是否真的站在我这边。 7.I tend to hurt others before they can hurt me. 我倾向于在别人伤害我之前先伤害他们。 8.I fear that people will hurt me if I allow them to get close to me. 我害怕人们会伤害我，如果我允许他们靠近我的话。 9.When I think about what people have done to me,I get angry. 当我想到人们对我所做的，我会变得生气。 10.The people who I should have been able to trust have physically,verbally,or sexually abused me. 我应该已经能够信任的人曾经身体、言语、性虐待过我。 三、Emotional Deprivation(ed)情感剥夺 1.I don't get as much love as I need. 我得到的爱没有我需要的多。 2.I feel like no one really understands me. 我觉得事实上没有人理解我。 3.I am usually attracted to cold partners who can't meet my needs. 我通常被冷漠的不能满足我的需要的伴侣所吸引。 4.I don't feel connected,even to the people who are closest to me. 我没有感到与那些甚至是最接近我的人有连接。 5.I have not had one special person in my life who wants to share himself or herself with me and care about what happens to me. 在我的生活中从没有过一个人会与我分享自己或关心我发生的事。 6.I don't have anyone in my life to give me warmth ,holding,and affection. 在我的生活里额米有一个人给我温暖、支持和情感。 7.I do not have a person in my life who really listens and is tuned in to my true needs and feelings. 在我的生活里没有一个人真的听并调整到我真正的需要和感受。 8.I find it difficult to let people guide or protect me even though it is what I want. 我发现要人指导或保护我是困难的，即使我需要。 9.I find it difficult to let people love me. 我发现让人爱我是困难的。 10.I feel lonely most of the time. 大多时候我感到孤独。 四、Defectiveness and Shame(ds)缺陷/羞耻 1.If others realy knew me they couldn't love me. 如果他人真的了解我的话就不会爱我了。 2.Because I am inherently flawed and defective,I am not worthy of love. 因为我天生是有缺陷的和不完美的，所以我不值得被爱。 3.I have secrets that I will not share even with the people closest to me. 我不会与甚至是最亲近我的人分享我的秘密。 4.I am to blame for my parents being unable to love me. 我责备父母不能爱我。 5.I present a false self that hides the real me because the real me is unacceptable. 我用虚假的自我来掩藏真是的我，因为我那真实的我是不可接受的。 6.I tend to be drawn to people who are critical and rejecting of me. 我会被挑剔、拒绝我的人吸引。 7.I tend to be critical and rejecting of others,especially those who seem to love me. 我倾向挑剔和拒绝他人，尤其那些看上去爱我的人。 8.I tend to devalue my positive qualities. 我倾向于贬低我的优点。 9.I feel a lot of shame about myself. 我对我自己感到很大的羞耻。 10.Exposure of my faults is one of my greatest fears. 暴露我的错误是令我最害怕的事之一。 五、Social Isolation and Alienation(si)社会孤立/羞耻 1.I feel very awkward in social situations. 在社交情景中我感到非常尴尬。 2.I don't know what to say at parties and other gatherings. 在聚会场合我不知道说些什么。 3.I feel like the people I want as friends are above me in some way，such as appearance，status，wealth，education，career，or popularity. 我感觉好像我想成为朋友的人都在某些方面超过我，例如外貌、地位、健康、教育、事业，或者人气方面。 4.I would prefer to avoid rather than attend most social gatherings. 我更倾向于回避而不是参与大多数聚会。 5.I feel that I am unattractive--too thin,fat,short,tall,ugly ,and so on. 我觉得我是缺乏魅力的----太瘦、太胖、太矮、太高、太丑，等等" 6.I feel like I am different from other people. 我觉得我不同于他人。 7.I don't feel like I belong.I am a loner. 我不觉得我属于哪个群体。我是个孤独的人。 8.I feel like I am on the outside of groups. 我觉得我是在群体外面。 9.My family was different from the other families when I was growing up. 我成长的家庭和其他家庭是不同的。 10.I feel like I am not part of the community at large. 我觉得我不是社会的一部分。 六、Dependence and Incompetence(de)依赖/无能力 1.I feel less like an adult and more like a child when it comes to dealing with responsibilities of daily life. 在每天处理责任中，我觉得我不像个成人而更像个孩子。 2.I do not have the capability to get by on my own. 我觉得我没能力独立。 3.I do not cope well by myself. 我觉得我无法靠自己处理好事情。 4.Other people are better at taking care of me than I am at taking care of myself. 他人比我更能照顾我。 5.If I don't have someone to guide me ,I have trouble tackling new tasks. 如果我不让某人来指导我，我处理新任务就会有麻烦。 6.I can't do anything right. 我做不对任何事。 7.I am inept. 我笨手笨脚。 8.I don't have common sense. 我没有常识。 9.I do not trust my own judgment. 我不相信我自己的判断。 10.Everyday life is overwhelming to me. 每天的生活对我来说都是压倒性的。 七、Failure(fa)失败 1.I feel that I am less competent than other people. 我觉得我比其他人更不胜任。 2.I feel like a failure when it comes to achievement. 谈到成就我觉得我像个失败者。 3.I feel like most people my age are more successful in their work than I am. 我觉得同龄的大多数人在他们的工作上都比我成功。 4.I was a failure as a student. 在学生时我是个失败者。 5.I feel like I am the least intellligent person in my group. 我觉得在我的群体里我是个最不聪明的人。 6.I feel humiliated by my failures in the area of work. 在工作领域我为我的失败而感到屈辱。 7.I feel that I do not measure up in terms of my accomplishments,and it makes me feel embarrassed around other people. 从我的成就上来看我是个不合格的，这让我在他人周围感到尴尬。 8.I feel that people believe that I am more competent than I really am. 我觉得别人对我能力的相信超过了真实的我。 9.I feel that I don't possess any special talents that really count in life. 我觉得我不拥有任何有价值的才能，在生活中。 10.I work at a level that is below my potential. 我的工作能力低于我的潜能。 八、Entitlement(en)权利 1."No"is an answer that I have trouble accepting. 我难以接受“不”的回答。 2.When I don't get what I want,I get angry. 当我不能得到我想要的，我会变得生气。 3.I am special and should not have to accept or be held to normal restrictions. 我是与众不同的，不必接受或执行正常的限制。 4.I always put my needs first. 我总是把我的需求放到第一位。 5.I have a very difficult time getting myselft to stop drinking,smoking, overeating, engaging in other problematic behaviors. 我难以让自己停止饮酒、吸烟、吃得过多、参与其他有问题的行为。 6.I lack discipline when it comes to completing routine or boring tasks. 当完成日常或无聊的工作时我比较散漫。 7.I act on impulses and emotions that result in consequences. 我冲动和情绪用事并导致苦果。 8.When I cannot reach a goal,I become frustrated and give up. 当我不能达到一个目标时，我感到挫败并放弃。 9.I insist that things get done my way. 我坚持那件事按我的方式去做。 10.My need for immediate gratification can get in the way of my reaching a long-term goal. 我的即可满足的需要会阻碍我更长远的目标。 九、Subjugation(su)屈从 1.I let other people control me and my life. 我让别人控制我和我的生活。 2.I worry that if don't fulfill the wishes of others,they will get angy,retaliate, or reject me. 我担心如果我不满足他人的愿望，他们会生气、报复，或拒绝我。 3.The major decisions in my life are not in my control. 我生活中的重要决定不由我控制。 4.I have difficulty demanding that other people respect my rights. 我难于要求他人尊重我的权利。 5.I really worry about pleasing people and getting their approval. 我真的担心取悦人们并得到他们的认可。 6.I go to great lengths to avoid conflict or confrontations with others. 我竭尽全力避免冲突或挑战他人。 7.I give more to others than they give to me. 我给予他人的比他人给我的多。 8.I experience the pain of other people deeply, which leads me to take care of the people I'm close to. 我能深深体会他人的痛苦，这让我去照顾我亲近的人。 9.If I put myself first,I feel guilty. 如果我把自己放在首位，我会感到内疚。 10.I am a good person because I think of others more than I think of myself. 我是个好人，因为我关心他人胜过关心自己。 十、Unrelenting Standards and Hypercriticalness(us)苛刻标准/吹毛求疵 1.I do not accept second best.I must be the best at most of what I do. 我不接受第二好。我必须是最好的，在我所做的大多数方面。 2.I feel like nothing I do is ever quite good 我觉得没有一件我做的事是足够好的。 3.I strive to keep everything in perfect order. 我努力让每件事井井有条。 4.I need to look my best at all times. 我需要看到我一直是最好的。 5.I don't have time to relax because I have so much to accomplish. 我没有时间放松因为我有如此多的事要做。 6.I push myself so hard that my personal relationships suffer. 我让自己如此努力以至于影响了我的个人关系。 7.I put myself under so much pressure that my health suffers. 我让自己处于如此多的压力下，以至于影响了我的健康。 8.When I make a mistake,I deserve strong criticism. 当我犯错误，我应该得到强烈的批评。 9.I am very competitive. 我非常求胜心切。 10.Wealth and status are very important to me. 财富和地位对我来说很重要。 计算方法：每个图式下面10题得分相加 10-19：非常低。这个图式可能不适用于你 20-29：相当低。这个图式可能偶尔适用于你。 30-39：中等。这个图式在你的生活中是个问题。 40-49：高。很清楚这对你来说是个重要的图式。 50-59：非常高。这很显然是你的核心图式之一。
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