voices of my insecurity

"omg he is distant! did i do something? did he stop liking me? what can i do to save my ass and face?"

"omg there're so many good looking people on the street. i'm nobody special. he could fall in love with any of them."

"omg he stopped texing me! i'm worthless."

never get real unless he gets real, especially if you're the bottom and he's reaching out to ya. withold and create the false impression that you're special and much in demand.

let him chase you, as he's the top. be selfish and self-centered.

you need a big god, otherwise you'd make him your god and thereby give the power of ruin your life. Fi precedes Fe. put yourself first. give YOURSELF empathy before you can give others empathy.