#297

I read a book called "Five Love Languages" and decided that my primary love language is "Words of Affirmation" and second primary is "Physical Touch". However, the quiz I took in a website (https://soulmatesystem.com/love-language-test/), please ignore the domain name, reveals that my primary love language is "Acts of Service" and this rather took me by surprise. Nevertheless, let's look at the five items one by one.

Words of Affirmation: expressing affection towards the partner; communicating in an encouraging, empathetic, and appreciative manner.

Acts of Service: when the partner acts rather than speaks and everything he or she does is to ease their partner’s burden of responsibility; in other words, devotion.

Receiving Gifts: occasionally gifting your partner well-thought-out presents as a form of appreciation and love; the essence of this form of language is in the thoughtfulness and the effort behind the end result.

Quality Time: This love language focuses on spending time with your partner and giving attention; those who like to spend quality time are usually good listeners.

Physical Touch: this type of love language concentrates on nonverbal communication through physical touch – hugs, pats, kisses, hand-holding and etc.; this is a direct way of expressing love and affection as a form of reassurance and calming.

I do value acts far more than words, but somehow I am a very picky person, moreover, I am extremely good and effecient in doing house chores or organizing activities, so for what in the world would I want my partner to provide service for me? I would rather have nice conversations regarding things we fancy, take a walk together, go out for a good dinner or just cuddling each other at home without doing anything.

So it means I don't really know myself or the test is simply nonsense?

Then I took the test again. And this time it shows my primary love language is "Words of Affirmation". Bingo.

But, what the heck was I doing the test for? Getting an answer that caters to what I have in mind.

Alas.

Let's get back to the book "The Five Love Languages" by Dr Gary Chapman It is well written, with a simple structure and useful tips.

Here are a few key takeaways that might be use to me.

It is always nice to encounter a book, fiction or non-fiction.