我因为有点承受不了所以找了ChatGPT寻求建议关于怎么处理别人给我发commit suicide的消息
是一个认识了8年的普通朋友，上次见面大概是7年前，一年可能会发1-3次消息的程度，最近一个月基本上天天给我发消息说要co****sui***，我一开始以为他是随便说说，说到第三次的时候我跟他很认真的确认，希望他不要随便用这个事情开玩笑，然后他回复我是认真的，于是我找了不同的角度去劝说，也了解这个想法背后的原因，也表明我不是一个很合适的人去聊这个话题--因为我自己也不在一个很好的状态，我也不是co****sui***强烈反对者，对我来说这就是一个个人选择，而且我不是专业人士。他完全不理会我的回应，就自顾自地去说自己的想法，天天发消息，也没什么实质性的内容，就是自/s h a，非常让我困扰。
我愤怒于我们之间是一个无效沟通，也愤怒于他对这个话题的功利性--以此来取得关注，而我无力应付，也有点生气他随意的利用这个话题是对真正被这个问题困扰的人的不尊重。
但是我确实无法确定这种事情到底是不是真的。
同时我也不明白，这个事情让我的反应很大，是生理性的不适，我感觉头要爆掉一样的，真的很想就此拉黑这个人。
下面是跟chatGPT的对话，我觉得她完全是标准SOP了，我下次准备直接复制粘贴她的回答，感觉说完了我想说的东西。
Q: if one person keep messaging me that he wants to commit suicide, but I feel that he just wants some attention, I strongly suggested that he could see a therapist but he just ignored my suggestions all the time. and I feel angry about he keeps messaging me, because he just said what he wanted to say and never listen to me, how should I cope with this situation?
A: It's understandable that you're feeling frustrated and overwhelmed in this situation. However, it's important to remember that suicidal thoughts and behaviors should always be taken seriously, even if it seems like the person is just seeking attention.
Here are some steps you can take to cope with this situation:
- Set boundaries: It's important to set boundaries with the person to protect your own mental health. Let them know that you care about them, but that you are not equipped to handle this situation on your own. You can say something like, "I care about you and I want you to be safe, but I'm not qualified to help you with your suicidal thoughts. It's important that you speak to a professional about this."
- Encourage them to seek professional help: Let the person know that seeking professional help is the best way for them to get the support they need. You can provide them with resources, such as the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) or the Crisis Text Line (text HOME to 741741).
- Be empathetic: Even if you feel frustrated with the person, it's important to try to understand where they are coming from. Remember that they are likely in a lot of pain and are reaching out for help in the only way they know how.
- Take care of yourself: Supporting someone who is struggling with suicidal thoughts can be emotionally draining. It's important to prioritize your own mental health and take breaks from the situation when you need to. Consider speaking to a therapist or a trusted friend or family member about how you're feeling.
Remember, it's not your responsibility to "fix" the person or solve their problems. Encouraging them to seek professional help is the best thing you can do for them, and taking care of yourself is important too.
Q: but why would I feel angry, I think it's just annoying, but I do feel angry and want block his contact
A: Feeling angry or frustrated in this situation is understandable. It can be emotionally draining to continually receive messages from someone who is not taking steps to address their issues. It is important to recognize and acknowledge your own emotions in this situation.
If you feel that blocking their contact is the best solution for you, then it may be appropriate to do so. However, it is important to communicate your decision with the person in a respectful and compassionate way, if possible. You could say something like, "I understand that you are going through a difficult time, but I am finding it hard to handle the volume of messages you are sending. I think it would be best for both of us if we take a break from communicating for a while. I wish you all the best."
It is important to remember that suicidal ideation should always be taken seriously, even if you suspect that the person may not be in immediate danger. If you have concerns about the person's safety, it may be appropriate to contact a crisis hotline or emergency services for guidance on how to best support them.
Q: can I speak to him that he just want some attention and I don't like it?
A: Yes, you can speak to him about your feelings and let him know that his behavior is making you uncomfortable. It's important to approach the conversation with empathy and understanding, as he may be going through a difficult time and seeking support in his own way.
You could try saying something like, "I care about you and want to support you, but I'm finding it difficult when you only seem to want to talk about suicide and don't seem open to seeking professional help. I feel like you may be seeking attention rather than genuine support, and that's making me uncomfortable. Can we talk about some other ways I can support you, or do you have any thoughts on how you can take steps towards getting the help you need?"
