亲密关系应该是什么样的
以下内容取自加拿大国家认证的心理咨询平台的博文。翻译为原创。
健康积极的亲密关系应包含如下几点：
I can be myself in the relationship. I’m comfortable around my partner.
我能够在这段关系中做我自己。和伴侣在一起时我感到很自在。
I feel emotionally safe in the relationship. I know my partner won’t try to hurt my feelings on purpose.
在这段关系中我感到情绪上很有安全感。我明白我的伴侣不会故意试图伤害我的感受。
I can talk to my partner about things that are important to me. My partner asks questions and listens to what I have to say.
我能够敞开心扉向我的伴侣谈论对我很重要的事情。我的伴侣会关心地向我提问、并耐心倾听我要说的话。
I can be honest with my partner. I can talk openly about things in the relationship (e.g. problems, concerns, etc.).
我能够和我的伴侣坦诚相对。我可以开诚布公地和他谈论自己对这段关系中的感受（如，烦恼，担忧，等等）
My partner has my best interests at heart. We respect and support each other.
我会处处为伴侣的利益着想。我们会尊重并支持对方。
I can count on my partner. They almost always follow through with their promises.
我可以依靠信任我的伴侣。他总是能做到履行承诺。
不健康的关系的表现，或者说，对方是渣男渣女的表现：
My partner humiliates me by calling me names, putting me down or making me feel bad in front of others.
我的伴侣会羞辱我，让我在别人面前感到尴尬。
My partner tries to control what I do, who I hang out with or what I wear. They demand to see my calls, texts or emails.
我的伴侣会试图掌控我的行为，控制我的社交和穿着。他会要求查看我的通话记录、短信、或电子邮件。
My partner pressures me to do things I don’t want to do. They don’t take “no” for an answer (e.g. they pressure me to sext, force me into sexual activity, etc.).
我的伴侣会向我施压，让我做不想做的事情。他不接受任何拒绝（如，他会强迫我进行 sq 聊天，或 x 行为等）
My partner physically abuses me (e.g. hits, pushes, shoves, etc.) and makes threats. I often feel scared of them.
我的伴侣会在肢体上虐待我（如，打、推搡，等等）并威胁我。我经常会很怕他。
I don’t feel like an equal in the relationship. My partner has all of the power — they make me feel small.
我在这段关系中感到地位上不平等。我的伴侣掌握所有的权力 – 他让我感觉自己很渺小无力。
My partner’s behaviour is unpredictable. They get angry easily — I feel like I’m always walking on eggshells.
我的伴侣的行为难以捉摸。他很易怒 – 我感觉自己总是如履薄冰。
原文：https://kidshelpphone.ca/get-info/quiz-healthy-relationship/
