2021年Fish的学习清单（下）

# 心理学/教育学/英语（KW: 爱的语言、各国教育理念、家庭教育、罪犯再教育）

53. 书籍：Lori Gottlieb_Maybe You should Talk to Someone***

作者不愧是好莱坞电视编剧出身，整本书对遣词造句和叙事结构有很好的把控力，把自己和几位患者的心理治疗过程写得比social drama还一波三折、扣人心弦，尤其是John和Rita的故事也太好哭了吧。

【Quote1】One of the most important steps in therapy is helping people take responsibility for their current predicaments, because once they realize that they can (and must) construct their own lives, they’re free to generate change. Often, though, people carry around the belief that the majority of their problems are circumstantial—which is to say, external. And if the problems are caused by everyone and everything else, by stuff out there, why should they bother to change themselves? Even if they decide to do things differently, won’t the rest of the world still be the same? It’s a reasonable argument. But that’s not how life generally works. Remember Sartre’s famous line “Hell is other people”? It’s true—the world is filled with difficult people. But sometimes—more often than we tend to realize—those difficult people are us. That’s right—sometimes hell is us. Sometimes we are the cause of our difficulties. And if we can step out of our own way, something astonishing happens.

【Quote2】The purpose of inquiring about people’s parents isn’t to join them in blaming, judging, or criticizing their parents. In fact, it’s not about their parents at all. It’s solely about understanding how their early experiences inform who they are as adults so that they can separate the past from the present. Most people’s parents did their absolute best, whether that “best”was an A-minus or a D-plus. It’s the rare parent who, however limited, deep down doesn’t want his or her child to have a good life. That doesn’t mean people can’t have feelings about their parents’limitations. They just need to figure out what to do with them.

【Quote3】Sometimes in their pain, people believe that the agony will last forever. But feelings are actually more like weather systems—they blow in and they blow out. Just because you feel sad this minute or this hour or this day doesn’t mean you’ll feel that way in ten minutes or this afternoon or next week. Everything you feel—anxiety, elation, anguish—blows in and out again.

54. 书籍：Gary Chapman_The 5 Love Languages

豆瓣上第一眼瞅到这本书的标题，觉得可能是chicken soup with lots of cliches。但听有声书的过程中，发现还挺有收获的。1）作者基于自己三十年marriage counseling的经验，总结了爱的五种表达方式: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch。我想，用恰当的方式相处不仅适用于夫妻，也可以改善与父母、子女、朋友的关系吧。2）作者的目标读者不是学术界，而是普通人，所以词句使用特别友好，也善于用案例和细节展开论证。

【Quote1】Welcome to the real world of marriage, where hairs are always on the sink and little white spots cover the mirror, where arguments center on which way the toilet paper comes off and whether the lid should be up or down. It is a world where shoes do not walk to the closet and drawers do not close themselves, where coats do not like hangers and socks go AWOL during laundry. In this world, a look can hurt and a word can crush. Intimate lovers can become enemies, and marriage a battlefield.

【Quote2】One of the by-products of quality activities is that they provide a memory bank from which to draw in the years ahead. Fortunate is the couple who remembers an early morning stroll along the coast, the spring they planted the flower garden, the time they got poison ivy chasing the rabbit through the woods, the night they attended their first major league baseball game together, the one and only time they went skiing together and he broke his leg, the amusement parks, the concerts, the cathedrals, and oh, yes, the awe of standing beneath the waterfall after the two-mile hike. They can almost feel the mist as they remember. Those are memories of love, especially for the person whose primary love language is quality time.

【Quote3】We are trained to analyze problems and create solutions. We forget that marriage is a relationship, not a project to be completed or a problem to solve. A relationship calls for sympathetic listening with a view to understanding the other person’s thoughts, feelings, and desires. We must be willing to give advice but only when it is requested and never in a condescending manner. Most of us have little training in listening. We are far more efficient in thinking and speaking. Learning to listen may be as difficult as learning a foreign language, but learn we must, if we want to communicate love.

55. 上野千鹤子_东京大学入学典礼演讲

【Quote】你们应该都是抱着“只要努力就会有回报”的信念来到这里的。但是，正如我一开始就谈到的“入学不公”现象一样，今后等待着你们的将是“即便努力也不一定会有公平回报”的社会。而且，请你们不要忘记，那些你们自以为“努力换来的回报”，并不单单是你们拼命努力的成果，而是你们身处的环境所赋予你们的。你们今天之所以能觉得“努力就会有回报”，是因为在过去的岁月里，你们周围的环境激励你们、督促你们、支持你们，并且称赞你们所获得的成就。你们是足够幸运的，因为世界上存在着即便努力也无法得到回报的人，存在着即便想努力却无法努力的人，也存在着由于过度努力而身心受挫的人，还存在着努力之前，因被别人嘲讽“就凭你不可能做到”，或陷入自我怀疑“反正我也做不到”，而丧失前进的动力的人。

请不要只为了一己输赢而努力。请不要将你们所获得的优越环境和能力，用来贬低那些没有你们那么幸运的人，而是用来帮助这群人。最后，请你们不要逞强，勇敢承认自己的弱点，互相支撑着活下去。孕育女性学的正是女权主义这种女性运动，但女权主义绝不是让女性像男性一样行动，也不是让让弱者变身为强者的思想。女权主义追求的是一种身为弱者也能受到应有尊重的思想。

今后，等待你们的将是一个现有学说完全无法适用的不可预测的未知世界。迄今为止，你们一直都在追求有正确答案的知识。今后等待你们的将是一个充满未知、充满没有正确答案的问题的世界。为什么学校里需要多样性呢？因为新的价值在体系和体系之间、在不同文化的摩擦碰撞之间产生的。这不仅局限于校内，东大将为大家提供海外留学和国际交流项目，同时也支持大家参与各类解决国内地域课题的相关活动。请你们追求未知，勇敢地走向世界。不必害怕异域文化。只要是有人类存活的地方，你们到哪里都能生存下去。我希望你们能掌握生存下去的智慧，只有这样，今后当你们跳出东大这块金字招牌，走向其它环境时，即便你们变成难民，也能够顺利生存下去。我深信，在大学学习的价值，不再是单纯掌握已有知识，而是掌握一种探索发现未知知识的能力。能够诞生新知识的知识叫做元知识。而让学生掌握元知识才是大学的真正使命。

56. 音频：周轶君等_你好，童年(12集)

【Quote1】在很多国家仍然存在着富人和穷人的这样一个事实，也就是说我们再怎么样让社会更加优化，仍然会发现有的人生活非常优越，而有的人生活非常困难。我认为教育最重要的是要给大家共同的东西，也就是说我别的资源可以没办法，但是教育应该是共同的。可是因为孩子的成长背景是有不同的，所以他们的使命也是不同的。那有的人就是叼了金钥匙来的，他的人生应该有哪些更多的东西？和那些从小连生存都很难的孩子，他要在这个教育当中获得的是什么？我认为二者是不一样的。所以我看轶君拍的英国精英教育的理念是对的，为什么？当你的家庭已经非常富有了，你的学习不是为了改变自己的命运，而你有更多的责任是对这个社会。所以它特别强调是第一要表达，第二要责任，即你为社会的别人做点什么。

——李玫瑾

【Quote2】以色列为什么重视教育？为什么重视创造？以色列作为整个的民族，几十万、上百万人曾经就是一贫如洗，立足之地都没有。罗马灭掉以色列的时候把人都赶跑了，是吧？赶到北非，赶到欧洲，对他们的限制是什么？不得拥有土地，不得拥有工厂，就当不了地主和工业资本家，于是他当什么？当医生，当律师，当银行家，当思想家去变革社会。犹太人在流散的过程中受到各种各样的限制，他们意识到除了你的头脑和知识以外，其他的都可能随时被剥夺。土地、工厂、财富，都是身外之物，但是只要你不死，用你的头脑，你就是一个非常顽强的高效的无毒的种子，落在任何荒蛮的土壤上，你都会发芽，没过几年又是一片森林，这个是教育的真谛。

——殷罡

【Quote3】当孩子和世界有冲突的时候，那是锻炼他批判性思维的一个很好机会。例如，和老师有冲突的时候，如果能让他不是非黑即白的说老师是坏人还是好人，而是让他去思考老师为什么这样说？老师的想法是怎样？你自己的感受是怎样？你自己的初衷是怎样？你的做法是怎样？不管结局最终是说谁合理谁不合理，他可以在这个过程中获得对于自我、对于社会、对于他人、对于一件事情的论理论据的提升。去锻炼孩子理解他人的情绪情感，其实是非常人文的，像我自己对文学的热爱和学习，最主要就是我发现在文学里面没有绝对的谁对谁错，而是这个人有这样的理由和情感，那个人有那样的理由和情感，他们之间会发生冲突。

——郝景芳

57. 音频：魏舒等_豁然开朗(27集，未完结)***

【Quote1】亲子关系的矛盾用一言蔽之，就是父母一直在等孩子说“谢谢”，而孩子一直在等父母说“对不起”。父母与子女的强弱关系会发生变化，当现实中一方成为强者时，可以先开始原谅对方，换种方式与其沟通。不要把一切问题都归于“原生家庭”，它会对个体产生影响，但不是不可改变的宿命。

【Quote2】孩子认识世界是通过各种感官，而非抽象概念。阅读就是孩子在不受伤害的前提下实现冒险的过程，它应该是对作品本身的直接感受，而不是对评论家观点的背诵。所以，阅读的目的不是“名词式”的积累，而是“动词式”的变化体验。

【Quote3】所有的痛苦可能源自与他人生活的比较，应当清楚地认识“自己想要什么”，而非拿着各种外界标尺去衡量，从而陷入无尽的苦恼。我们要培养孩子不依赖金钱和物质也能获得快乐的能力。当然，家长自己要有体会这种快乐的能力，如果家长内心充满对金钱的渴望和焦虑，那也很难在生活中教化孩子的行为。此外，现代科技带来了很多让人沉迷其中的廉价的快乐（如“刷短视频”），要警惕这种“消费性”的即时快乐。

58. 纪录片：Lynn Novick_College Behind Bars(4集)***

该片围绕美国巴德学院所开展的BPI项目，即针对纽约州监狱囚犯的大学教育项目。我在观看的过程中，真切地感受到教育如何改变一个人。出镜的几位主人公有不少共性：都是少数族裔出身，生活在脏乱差的底层社区，少时缺少父母的陪伴和引导，跟着狐朋狗友混社会，稀里糊涂酿成大祸后锒铛入狱。幸运地是，他们在服刑期间申请到了BPI的学习机会。无论是通过文学、历史、政治、科学等丰富的课程，还是和西点、哈佛等一流大学的学生进行辩论，这些重罪犯们反思过往生活的错误选择，修缮与家人的亲密关系，关注种族不公、女性独立等切身问题，获得一技之长以便回归社会找到立足之地。

看完这个记录片时，恰好发生了哥大留学生枪杀案。当然我会为一个中国杰出青年的逝去深感痛心，可是脑海里也一直忘不掉新闻里关于凶手的描述：年仅18岁，非洲族裔，多次入狱，当天抢的电子产品转手只换了100美元。

【Quote1】At 19 years old, I enrolled in Onondaga Community College. I was also working in the hospital. But once I told my employer that I’d enrolled into college, he cut my hours completely. I was a teenager, I had bills to pay, and I was on my own. I was very desperate for money, and I started robbing people. One robbery went terribly wrong. I killed someone... Over the years, I had never forgotten that this man was a father and that he had a young daughter. She is a young woman now... So there’s a lot going on inside about this with me. On one hand, I know exactly what it feels like to lose someone. On the other hand, it’s not fair to the family for me to equate their loss with my loss. And there’s nothing I can say. An apology doesn’t address any of their pain. I’m responsible for all of this. I don’t know how you go about even convincing people that that one act is not who I am.

【Quote2】I am not worthy of redemption, and part of the reason why we think this is because of the wording “violent criminal.”It is not the violent act that you’ve committed fifteen, twenty years ago. You are a violent criminal. There’s something that is inherent about you, that we must protect the rest of society away from. This person did something terrible, and he should be punished for it. But... he is a person. He might change. He might not be a bad person.

【Quote3】Colleges helps us learn about the nation, helps us become civic beings, and helps us understand that we have an interest in our community, that our community is a part of us and we are a part of it. And oftentimes, we don’t feel that way in a prison environment. We feel as if we’re cut off from the community. The community is against us. When you have an absence of any programs in prison that facilitate any kind of growth, individuals are becoming disillusioned because they are not prepared for anything other than what they’ve already been doing, which is crime.

---Rodney Spivey-Jones, an African-American BPI student that impressed me most

59. 书籍：葛传槼_向学习英语者讲话***

全书摘录：https://book.douban.com/annotation/111145228/

60. 书籍：Alice Oshima & Ann Hogu_Writing Academic English

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61. 书籍：The Official ACT English Guide

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62. 书籍：刘振民_GMAT语法改错精析

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63. 书籍： 张满胜_英语语法新思维·初级（重读）

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64. 书籍： 张满胜_英语语法新思维·中级（重读）

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# 女性主义（KW：厌女症、教育平等、无偿劳动、工作平等、童婚、堕胎、代孕）

65. 上野千鹤子_厌女***

【Quote1】塞吉维克新造的homosocial一词，则指“男人之间不带性的关系”，即男人之间相互认同的欲望，故称“社会性(social)”。“男性同性社会性欲望”并非单独存在，而是与“厌女症”(misogyny)”、“同性恋憎恶 (homophobia）”互为一体，三要素共同构成性别秩序。这里有三个要点。（1）男人之间的纽带，是一种“男性同性社会性欲望”。（2）为了维持男人集团的主体性和优越性，需要将女人“他者化”，视为欲望客体，加以蔑视。这就是“厌女症”。（3）为了保证男人集团中每位成员的主体地位，还要严厉清除同性恋。因为同性恋者把同性男人视为欲望对象，会使男人论为欲望客体，扰乱男人集闭的秩序，十分危险。这就是“同性恋憎恶”。

【Quote2】在男人世界里，价值标准是一元的，“让男人倾倒”的男人，女人也会为之倾倒。金钱和权力，是衡量男人价值的最明快易懂的尺度。女校文化有双重标准。“被男人接受”的价值和“被女人接受”的价值是不一样的。……“学业分数”与“女性分数”常常不一致。“女性分数”高的女生，周围原本没有期待她的学业，因为她已经拥有生存下去的“替代资源”。学业分数被期待为对“女性资源”匮乏的弥补。学业分数低的少女，则试图以“女性分数”为“替代资源”，来立于学业优秀的女生之上。对成绩好的女生，她们嘲笑其“女性资源”的贫乏，挖苦她们是“丑女”“不懂男人”，同时她们自己积极地投资时装化妆品等“女性资源”。不过，“女性资源”不是靠自己挣来的，归根到底是被男人选择（成为男人性欲望的对象）、由男人赋予价值，所以，思春期的少女们走向性早熟的行为，越出学校文化的规范。由此，出现一个“矛盾”的现象：貌似反抗学校文化的早熟少女，却成为男人社会里始乱终弃的性的客体。

除上述两种“分数”以外，女校文化中还有另一种“被女人接受的分数”。有的女生因为有股凛然的“男子气”而成为全班的英雄，有的女生很会逗笑而招众人喜欢。可是，她们总有一天要毕业。离开女校之后，当年女校文化中的“英雄”，会因不知在异性恋制度之下该如何举止而经历自我身份认同的危机。然后，她们会痛切也懂得，被女人喜欢的女人，决不能得到男人的喜欢。

【Quote3】厌女症之于女人即为自我厌恶，但女人也有可能不将厌女症作为自我厌恶来体验，其方式就是把自己当作女人中的“例外”，将除自己以外的女人“他者化”，从而把厌女症转嫁出去。为此，有两种策略。一种是成为特权精英女人，被男人当作“名誉男人”来对待，即成为女强人的策略。另一种是自动退出“女人”的范畴，从而逃脱被估价的女人身份，即“丑女”策略。

可是，女人的这种自视“例外”，只会重复生产对“一般女人”的轻蔑。她也许会被男性共同体接纳为“名誉男人”，但在表面恭维的背后，是她绝不会被认作“同伙”的现实，正如进入白人中产阶级社会里的黑人。

【Quote4】当今的皇太子在娶雅子为妻的时候，媒体报道，他说过这么一句话：“我将竭尽一生全力保护你。”这句话，当时击中了多少日本女性的心！如果你也是被这句话击中过的女人中的一个，那证明你也是将“权力的色情化”身体化了的女人。“保护”意味着将人关进围栏之中，终生支配。无论那个围栏是温室还是监狱，无甚区别。果然，等在雅子前面的正是不折不扣的“被囚之人”的现实。而且，当一个男人“保护”女人时，他的外敌常常是比自己更强有力的其他男人。“保护”不过是“所有”的另一种表达，却成了“爱”的代名词，这正是“权力的色情化”。我没有嘲笑皇太子的意思。年轻的皇太子应该是真心地用这个词来表达他的诚实的爱，可是，“保护”一词的含义，很明白地显示，男人的爱，只能以所有与支配的形式来表现。

同时，女人的爱，有时也表现为服从与被拥有。“我跟着你”“一生也别离开我”，这种表达就是典型。女人只知道“爱”就是“勤快地照料他的日常生活”，一旦喜欢上一个男人，就到他的住处去，为他打扫屋子洗衣服做便当。这正是近代家庭制度中的“照料照顾”的角色，女人的“爱”，只能以这种方式来表达。女人的此种举动，反映出主妇沦落为下层资产阶级的无偿家务劳动者的历史现实。若是贵族或资产阶级的子弟，女人一旦做便当，便应视之为侍女，而不配做妻子。

【Quote5】超越厌女症有两条路径。一条是女人的路径，一条是男人的路径。关于前一条路径，我要对一个广泛流通的误解作出解释，即“女性主义者也有厌女症”之说。对于此说，我们点头称是即可，没有任何否定的理由。原因之一，生长于这个厌女症的社会，不被厌女症侵染的女人恐怕不存在。原因之二，女性主义者就是自觉意识到自身的厌女症而决意与之斗争的人。如果有女人自身完全不存在厌女症（那样的女人如果有的话），那她就不存在斗争的对象，也就失去成为女性主义者的理由了。

森冈说，男人的自我厌恶有两点，一是“自我否认”，一是“身体蔑视”。……女人终身诅咒自己为身体的奴隶，而男人则终身偿还将身体他者化的代价。……自我厌恶的男人，超越厌女症只有一个方法，就是停止对身体的他者化。换言之，停止成为身体及身体性的支配者，即精神=身体。停止将与身体相关的性、怀孕、生育视为“女人领域”。如果像森冈所言，男人也想接受“一个完整的自己”，那么，就应该与包括身体在内的自己和解。正面面对身体的欲望和欲望的归结，关注陪伴身体的变化，不要贬低以身体为媒介的亲密。无论对谁，身体都是不能随心所欲的最初的他者。如果我们接受了身体这个“他者”的他者性，应该就能够延伸出去，进而接受通过身体相关联的他人的存在，这就是既不将他人视为支配控制的对象，也不视其为威胁恐怖的源泉，而是完整地接受下来。……对于（理应）身为男人的人，这意味着战胜“变得不是男人”的恐惧。

66. 纪录片：NHK_上野千鹤子的最后一课

【Quote1】我觉得相爱就是彼此重视，而被重视就是被尊重。最基本的是女性不选择不尊重自己的男性，男性也要去选择那些可以被尊重的女性。我在想，东大的女生们装作蠢蠢的样子，是说不可爱的女孩子就没有人追？那可爱是什么意思呢？就是容易驾驭、容易操纵、容易控制，跟尊重沾不上边。被这样的男人选择开心吗？选择这样的女人快乐吗？

【Quote2】看护的双方具有压倒性的不对称关系，几乎无法期待看护者和被看护者的角色互换。这种不对称关系的根本走向就是权利的滥用，它不仅存在于上司和下属、教师和学生之间，也存在于父母和子女之间。滥用权利的人能够从中获得快感，而看护是长时间地对抗这种欲望的经验。我认为，如果看护是一种学习非暴力的实践，男性们也应该学习非暴力，而把他们纳入非暴力看护实践中，则是女性的使命。

【Quote3】我年轻的时候想过，世界变成这样是谁的问题呢？是谁在高层决定着事务呢？我一看，尽是黑毛大叔。那时我想，大叔们烦死了。一边想着一边向他们扔石头（参与60年代日本学生运动）。终有一天，年轻的后来人也对你们发问，世界变成这样是谁的原因呢？到了那时候，希望你们能够把一个不用对他们说抱歉的社会交到他们手中。

67. 书籍：Melinda Gates_The Moment of Lift

【Quote1】We tend to push out the people who have qualities we’re most afraid we will find in ourselves---and sometimes we falsely ascribe qualities we disown to certain groups, then push those groups out as a way of denying those traits in ourselves. This is what drives dominant groups to push different racial and religious groups to the margins. And we’re often not honest about what’s happening. If we’re on the inside and see someone on the outside, we often say to ourselves, “I'm not in that situation because I'm different.”But that’s just pride talking. We could easily be that person. We have all things inside us. We just don’t like to confess what we have in common with outsiders because it’s too humbling. It suggests that maybe success and failure aren’t entirely fair. And if you know you got the better deal, then you have to be humble, and it hurts to give up your sense of superiority and say, “I’m no better than others.”So instead we invent excuses for our need to exclude. We say it’s about merit or tradition when it’s really just protecting our privilege and our pride.

The starting point for human improvement is empathy. Everything flows from that. Empathy allows for listening, and listening leads to understanding. That’s how we gain a common base of knowledge. When people can’t agree, it’s often because there is no empathy, no sense of shared experience. If you feel what others feel, you’re more likely to see what they see. Then you can understand one another. Then you can move to the honest and respectful exchange of ideas that is the mark of a successful partnership. That’s the source of progress.

【Quote2】Killian says, “To be known without being loved is terrifying. To be loved without being known has no power to change us. But to be deeply known and deeply loved transforms us.”Trying to help others while keeping them at a safe distance cannot truly help them or heal us. We have to open up to others. We have to give up the need to be separate and superior. Then we can help. Working on ourselves while working for others is the inner and outer work---where the effort to change the world and the effort to change ourselves come together.

【Quote3】Many successful social movements are driven by the same combination—strong activism and the ability to take pain without passing it on. Anyone who can combine those two finds a voice with moral force. There is a big difference between a loud voice and a strong voice. The loud voice of a man who has no inner life and is a stranger to his own grief is never a voice for justice; it’s a voice for self-interest, dominance, or vengeance. Strong male voices for freedom and dignity come from men like Gandhi, King, and Mandela who mastered their pain, gave up on vengeance, and preached forgiveness.

The most radical approach to resistance is acceptance—and acceptance does not mean accepting the world as it is. It means accepting our pain as it is. If we refuse to accept our pain, then we’re just trying to make ourselves feel better—and when our hidden motive is to make ourselves feel better, there is no limit to the damage we can do in the name of justice. Great leaders never combine a call for justice with a cry for vengeance. Leaders who can master their pain have taken self-interest off their agenda, so their voice rings with moral power. They are no longer speaking their truth. They are speaking truth.

68. 网课：戴锦华_性别与凝视(20集，未完结)***

久仰戴老师的大名，但第一次看她的课。先挑着听了已看电影的评论，只能说自己之前的观影过程是囫囵吞枣、思考甚少的。目前最受触动的一期是关于《汉娜·阿伦特》这部电影。

【Quote】汉娜·阿伦特的勇敢不是表现在她坚持个人的见解、不惜面对自己所从属的犹太社群/亲友的敌意，而是表现在她面对一个历史事实并由它经历了思想生产的时候，能超越一己的伤痛。

汉娜·阿伦特认为，纳粹在现代民主体制内部出现的原因是“平庸之恶”，即没有邪恶内心、魔鬼意愿的小人物缺少独立思考能力，且不满足成为普通的人类，而臣服于极权体制的命令去行恶。 但是，影片通过四次闪回镜头所展现的“汉娜与自己的导师/情人马丁·海德格尔的交情”，指出了她观点中的驳论：如果思想能力使人独立地面对现代主义不断吐出的毒素、不断发出的魅惑式召唤，那我们该如何解释海德格尔这位“思想之王”对纳粹主义的加盟，以及法西斯主义在德国政治思想中的渊源呢？

这部电影的可贵之处在于创作者坚持用女性的目光、女性的特点、女性的生命经验面对历史，塑造出勇敢的汉娜·阿伦特形象，同时并不避讳历史留给我们的谜团和两难处境。

69. 纪录片：Ricki Stern&Anne Sundberg_Reversing Roe

【Quote1】When a woman becomes pregnant, she loses a part of herself to someone else. Most of us want that because it’s beautiful. It is not that way for everyone. We can sit here self-righteously and decide that we always know best for every person, but we do not. There’s no reason to come back here, session after session, make it more and more difficult, and drive women back into the shadows of illegal abortions. If you want to stop abortions, then help stop unwanted pregnancies.

---a female senator of Taxes

【Quote2】One of the strategies of the anti-choice movement is to shame people who provide abortions and people who have abortions. If you think about controlling when and if and how many children somebody has, it’s sort of the absolute demonstration of patriarchy because controlling people’s fertility can affect what education they can get, what career they can have, and how far they can go in life.

---Doctor Colleen McNicholas, Gynecologist

【Quote3】The rights of autonomy, bodily integrity, and equality are central to our notions of ordered liberty. The Roe vs. Wadecase lies at the heart of those interests. Abortion is not about whether or not women should have particular medical procedures. It’s about equity. It’s about a view of life, about who should make important decisions.

---Kathryn Kolbert, Reproductive Rights Attorney

70. 纪录片：Matt Rudge_House of Surrogates

【Quote】My children are growing up, and I want to give them a bright future. That’s why I choose to be a surrogate. I’ll be able to use the money I have earned from surrogacy to send my children to an English-speaking school. Not in my entire life do I want my daughter to be a surrogate mother.

---Vasanti, an Indian surrogate mother, what she said is really heartbreaking

# 艺术创作（KW：画家、雕塑家、作家、导演）

71. 纪录片：陈丹青_局部第一季(16集)

因为舞剧《只此青绿》今年年底来济南巡演，而看了丹青老师关于《千里江山图》的解读。面对王希孟18岁所展现的丰沛灵性，他如此赞叹道：“年轻新手画画，兴致勃然，只要技艺在手，一半是逞能的快感，一半是他对眼前的世界太好奇，太动心，太热爱。思想、寄托、寓意、境界，不是少年人的事情。所谓虚实、提炼、滋味、风格，是成年画家的智力意图和精神追求，是一种所谓文化上的自我驱策与自我锤炼。少年则是拿着生命力和感觉做事情。” 可惜，出于某些原因没能看成演出，但还是幸运地收获了《局部》里各派绘画的滋养。

72. 书籍：陈丹青_局部：陌生的经验

【Quote1】画家们游走于千载之间，永远是乌合之众，我们羡慕的也就是这个。他们彼此赞叹，但永远没法合流，只能是隔水相呼。这样才好。有时合群，有时独处，孤单而又孤单得不甚长久的人是多么幸福啊。

【Quote2】《巴齐耶的画室》的这幅画，它就像每个人都有过的青春记忆里的一个早晨，好像就在昨天谁来了站在什么地方，谁在和谁说话，谁只管自己在边上玩，然后，窗外是都市的晴天，一切都好极了，充满年轻人才会有的自信和希望——木心先生有过一句俳句：年轻人充满希望的清瘦啊！真的，我们自己年轻时，一点不觉得稀罕，成天瞎混，有一天回想起来，多么珍贵。

【Quote3】漫长艺术史，画家的身份从巫师、奴隶、工匠、同业公会会员、宫廷贵族画师，一步步变成自由人，“自己雇自己”——观众或许会问：艺术家给养起来接活儿好呢，还是独立自由好？各有各的好，各有各的不好。给人养着，出一种艺术；自己养自己，出另一种艺术。达·芬奇的时代出不了凡·高，安迪·沃霍尔的时代出不了伦勃朗。有人要，等人要，各有甘苦，大家知道，凡·高最动人的冤案之一，是卖不出画。但事情或许被弄反了，我们忽略了顶顶关键的问题：在他的时代，没人要他画画。

73. 纪录片：Martin Scorsese_Pretend It's a City(7集)

【Quote1】An artist, if he or she is a truly artist, is only interested in one thing, that is, to wake up the minds of men, to have mankind and womankind realize that there is something greater than what we see on the surface.

【Quote2】I don’t have these hi-tech things not because I don’t know what they are, but because I do know what they are.

【Quote3】I think a book isn’t supposed to be a mirror. It’s supposed to be a door. No matter who you are, you have just one life. But in books, you have a zillion lives. To me, it’s just a way of being immensely rich.

74. 纪录片：James Redford_Amy Tan

【Quote1】In my office is a time capsule. Seven large, clear plastic bins safeguarding frozen moments in time. A past that began before my birth. During the writing of this book, I delved into the contents. Memorabilia, letters, photos, and the like. And what I found had the force of glaciers calving. I am not the subject matter of mothers and daughters or Chinese culture or immigrant experience that most people cite as my domain. I am a writer compelled by a subconscious neediness to know, which is different from a need to know. The latter can be satisfied with information. The former is a perpetual state of uncertainty and a tether to the past.

【Quote2】I didn’t seek to be a politician. I didn’t seek to be a representative of a whole community of people. I just hoped to write some good stories. And yet when I was given this mantle of speaking for the Asian-American community, suddenly, there were these expectations. I started getting a lot of criticism. Some said I did it wrong, that I had created stereotypes---mothers speaking in broken English or concubines who had killed themselves---and pandered to those. In the beginning, I didn’t know what to say. I would be caught off-guard. But then I realized, what they wanted really was role models. They wanted me to right the social injustices. And finally, they had somebody in the limelight who should now address that and not be pandering to the mainstream. What they were asking me to do was to write propaganda. I understand it, but to be true to myself, I could not give in to that kind of pressure.

【Quote3】In 2016, I started to draw what I saw out the window. I don’t have anyone expecting me to produce anything, and in fact, when somebody says to me, ‘Can you draw me a bird?’like my publisher did, and I said, ‘Sure,’and then I couldn’t draw him a bird. And I realized that was a part of it. The freedom to do what I enjoyed had to come with no expectations and that I did it only for myself.

75. 纪录片：KenBurns&Lynn Novick_Hemingway(3集)

【Quote1】You see, I’m trying in all my stories to get the feeling of the actual life across, not just to depict life or criticize it, but to actually make it alive so that when you’ve read something by me, you actually experience the thing. You can’t do this without putting in the bad and the ugly as well as what is beautiful because if it is all beautiful, you can’t believe in it. Things aren’t that way. It is only by showing both sides, 3 dimensionally, and if possible, 4 that you can write the way I want to.

——Ernest Hemingway

【Quote2】It is, note, my fault: I am the one who has changed and I am ashamed and guilty, too, because I am breaking his heart. We quarreled too much, I suppose. it’ll all sickening and I’m sad to death and afraid. I only want to be alone. I want to myself and alone and free, to breathe, live, look upon the world and find it however it is. I want my own name back, most violently, as if getting it back would give me some of myself.

——Martha Gellhorn, journalist, writer, and the 3rd wife of Hemingway, who had the guts to divorce him

【Quote3】I think that there are difficult interpretations for the Old Man and Sea. If a young person reads it, it’s about adventure, the struggle, the heroism of the old man, drawing strength from only his conviction. But I think that for someone older, it’s more about old age, the way it resuscitates, how it fights its last battle, knowing that it’s going to lose. From the beginning, the old fisherman knows he cannot win the battle against the sharks. But he still wages a battle because, in a way, even if he loses the battle, it gives him a better understanding for himself. And it gives him an illusion, which allows him to live.

——Mario Vargas Llosa, Peruvian Spanish writer

76. 纪录片：文念中_好好拍电影

【Quote】我想感谢香港这个城市。我在这里长大，在这里受教育，在这里拿奖学金去读电影，回来后又不停给予我创作灵感，让我赚到钱，做到事。在这里有最好吃的菠萝包，有最好喝的奶茶，我非常之感谢香港，希望以后可以多些帮这个城市做事。

——许鞍华，第37届香港电影金像奖获奖致辞

77. 纪录片：罗莎莎_张艺谋的2008(8集)

东京奥运会期间，不能免俗地追忆了北京奥运会开幕式的幕后故事。原来，张艺谋带领的导演组，可谓“八仙过海，各显神通”，比如舞蹈设计是《千手观音》的编导张继刚，音乐总监是给电影《归来》等配乐的陈其刚，烟火设计是纪录片《天梯》的主人公蔡国强，艺术策划则是《局部》的主讲人陈丹青。我记得大学上英语专业课时，班里有个男同学说开幕式只是国人自娱自乐罢了，外国媒体并不感冒，证据就是奥委会主席罗格的评价“truly exceptional”为“十分异常”之意。当时，我忍不住回怼了他，说牛津词典中“exceptional”有“outstanding”的释义，译成“无与伦比”是恰当的。现在回想，不是我有民族主义者的狭隘心理，而是艺术家们碰撞出的创意结晶值得肯定。毕竟，东方文明能有多少机会在国际舞台得到展现呢。同理，在新冠疫情的艰难局面下，也不要苛责东京奥运会开幕式的简约日式风格。借用戴锦华老师的一句话，我们应该珍惜“在一个公共性空间中与异质性生命相遇的可能性”。

78. 音频：许知远_许知远的内心旅行（未完结）

和之前《单读》的节目形式差不多，每集分享一首歌、一本书或者电影、一封听众来信。聊的内容其实挺零散，但还是把它列到学习清单里，一是现在已经很少有人去大段朗读书籍的原文，二是通过了解艺术家的创作背景，有激发更广泛的阅读兴趣。

【Quote】Funeral Blues by W. H. Auden

Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,

Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone,

Silence the pianos and with muffled drum

Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come.

Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead

Scribbling on the sky the message ‘He Is Dead.’

Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves,

Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves.

He was my North, my South, my East and West,

My working week and my Sunday rest,

My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song;

I thought that love would last for ever; I was wrong.

The stars are not wanted now; put out every one,

Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun,

Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood;

For nothing now can ever come to any good.

# 小说/诗歌

79. 书籍：陈忠实_白鹿原

【Quote1】圣人不屑于理会凡人争多嫌少的七事八事，凡人也难以遵从圣人的至理名言来过自己的日子。圣人的好多广为流传的口歌化的生活哲理，实际上只有圣人自己可以做到，凡人是根本无法做到的。“房是招牌地是累，攒下银钱是催命鬼。”这是圣人姐夫的名言之一，乡间无论贫富的庄稼人都把这句俚语口歌当经念。当某一个财东被土匪抢劫了财宝又砍掉了脑袋的消息传开，所有听到这消息的男人和女人就会慨叹着吟诵出圣人的这句话来。人们用自家的亲身经历或是耳闻目睹的许多银钱催命的事例反覆论证圣人的圣言，却没有一个人能真正身体力行。凡人们兴味十足甚至幸灾乐祸一番之后，很快就置自己刚刚说过的血淋淋的事例于脑后，又拼命去劳作去挣钱去迎接催命的鬼去了，在可能多买一亩土地再添一座房屋的机运到来的时候绝不错失良机。凡人们绝对信服圣人的圣言而又不真心实意实行，这并不是圣人的悲剧，而是凡人永远成不了圣人的缘故。

【Quote2】平常的日月就像牛拉的铁箍木轮大车一样悠悠运行。灾荒瘟疫和骤然掀起的动乱，如同车轮陷进泥坑的牛车，或是窝死了轮子，或是颠断了车轴而被迫停滞不前；经过或长或短的一番折腾，或是换上一根新车轴，牛车又在辙印深凹的土路上吱嘎吱嘎缓慢地滚动起来了......死去的人不管因为怎样的灾祸死去，其实都如同跌入坑洼颠断了的车轴；活着的人不能总是惋惜那根断轴的好处，因为再好也没用了，必须换上新的车轴，让牛车爬上坑洼继续上路......无论父亲母亲儿子女儿和丈夫，在任何人来说都不能保证绝对的完美，不可能一家人永远在一起；因为再好的父亲母亲儿子女儿和丈夫，一旦遭到死劫就不会重新聚合了，即使你不吃不喝想死想活哭断肝肠也不顶啥喀！一根断折的车轴！再好再结实的车轴总有磨细和颠断的时候，所以死人并不应该表现特别的悲哀。

【Quote3】朱先生说：“我已经不读书不写字了。我劝你也再甭念书了。”黑娃疑惑地皱起眉头。朱先生接着说：“读了无用。你读得多了名声大了，有人就来拉你写这个宣言那个声明。”黑娃悲哀地说：“我只知你总是向人劝学，没想到你劝人罢读。”朱先生说：“读书原为修身，正己才能正人正世；不修身不正己而去正人正世者，无一不是盗名欺世；你把念过的书能用上十之一二，就是很了不得的人了。读多了反而累人。”

80. 书籍：张爱玲_郁金香

印象比较深的几篇是《连环套》、《五四遗事》、《小艾》、《多少恨》。

【Quote】在文字的沟通上，小说是两点之间最短的距离。就连最亲切的身边散文，是对熟朋友的态度，也总还要保持一点距离。只有小说可以不尊重隐私权。但是并不是窥视别人，而是暂时或多或少的认同，像演员沉浸在一个角色里，也成为自身的一次经验。

81. 网课：杨照_张爱玲-孤绝的华丽（13集）

杨老师对张爱玲作品的解读，让我最感慨的一点就是小说《小团圆》名字的由来。原来，张爱玲曾在散文《异乡记》中记录了1946年她离开上海去温州乡下找胡兰成的经历，其中一段话是这样的：

“那滑头的车夫唱唱喓喓地走在我们前面，他穿着短袖汗衫，跨带里掖着一条粉红条子的毛巾，直柳柳的腰肢左右摇摆着。他唱得那种小调，永远只有那么一句，那调子听上去像银链子的一环，像一个八字，回环如意。路远山遥，烈日下的歌声明亮而又悲哀。独轮车在黄土道上走着，紧挨着右首几丈高的淡紫色的岩石，石头缝里生出从树与长草。连台本戏里常常有这样的一幕布景的，这岩石非常像旧式舞台上的‘硬片’，不知道为什么有那样一种不真实的感觉。有一处山石上刻着三个大字，不记得是个什么地名了，反正是更使人觉得这地方的戏剧性，仿佛应当有些打扮得像花蝴蝶似的唱戏的，在这里狭路相逢，一场恶门，或者是‘小团圆’，骨肉巧遇，一同上山落草。”

杨老师评论道：张爱玲千里跋涉，希望找到胡兰成，跟他一起落难天涯海角，哪怕背上“汉奸”的骂名。只能说，她后来知道自己找错人了，可是人虽然是错的，那份情感却是真实的。

82. 书籍：苏童_妻妾成群

五个短篇小说，其中《妻妾成群》改编成电影《大红灯笼高高挂》、《妇女生活》改编成电影《茉莉花开》、红粉改编成电影《红粉》。读了戴锦华对90年代男性作品的评论，发现自己只能感受到故事最浅显的表达，即男权社会的女性挣扎，而不会想到从中国历史叙述的他者化角度解读——“第五代的创作呈现为一种文化屈服和民族文化的“内在的自我放逐”的历程。他们必须将这一咄咄逼人的“异己者”的视点内在化，同时将民族的历史、经验与体验客体化。在《大红灯笼高高挂》中，男主角的视觉缺席、多进四合院、古典建筑博物馆式的空间的入主，成群妻妾间的争风吃醋作为中国式的“内耗”与权力斗争的象喻，负荷著中国文化语境中的历史反思的内涵；而在西方的文化视域中，却成了欲望主体、欲望视域的发出者的悬置，成了可供西方观众去占据的空位。东方式的空间、东方故事、东方佳丽共同作为西方视域中的‘奇观’（spectacle），在“看”、被看、男性、女人的经典模式中，将跻身于西方文化边缘中的民族文化呈现为一种自觉的“女性”角色与姿态。”

83. 书籍：John Williams_Stoner***

【Quote1】In his extreme youth Stoner had thought of love as an absolute state of being to which, if one were lucky, one might find access; in his maturity he had decided it was the heaven of a false religion, toward which one ought to gaze with an amused disbelief, a gently familiar contempt, and an embarrassed nostalgia. Now in his middle age he began to know that it was neither a state of grace nor an illusion; he saw it as a human act of becoming, a condition that was invented and modified moment by moment and day by day, by the will and the intelligence and the heart.

【Quote2】He found himself wondering if his life were worth the living; if it had ever been. It was a question, he suspected, that came to all men at one time or another; he wondered if it came to them with such impersonal force as it came to him. The question brought with it a sadness, but it was a general sadness which (he thought) had little to do with himself or with his particular fate; he was not even sure that the question sprang from the most immediate and obvious causes, from what his own life had become. It came, he believed, from the accretion of his years, from the density of accident and circumstance, and from what he had come to understand of them. He took a grim and ironic pleasure from the possibility that what little learning he had managed to acquire had led him to this knowledge: that in the long run all things, even the learning that let him know this, were futile and empty, and at last diminished into a nothingness they did not alter.

【Quote3】Deep in him, beneath his memory, was the knowledge of hardship and hunger and endurance and pain. Though he seldom thought of his early years on the Booneville farm, there was always near his consciousness the blood knowledge of his inheritance, given him by forefathers whose lives were obscure and hard and stoical and whose common ethic was to present to an oppressive world faces that were expressionless and hard and bleak. And though he looked upon them with apparent impassivity, he was aware of the times in which he lived. He saw good men go down into a slow decline of hopelessness, broken as their vision of a decent life was broken; he saw them walking aimlessly upon the streets, their eyes empty like shards of broken glass; he saw them walk up to back doors, with the bitter pride of men who go to their executions, and beg for the bread that would allow them to beg again; and he saw men, who had once walked erect in their own identities, look at him with envy and hatred for the poor security he enjoyed as a tenured employee of an institution that somehow could not fail. He did not give voice to this awareness; but the knowledge of common misery touched him and changed him in ways that were hidden deep from the public view, and a quiet sadness for the common plight was never far beneath any moment of his living.

84. 书籍：Ian McEwan_The Children Act

【Quote】Marital or partner breakdown and distress in Great Britain swelled like a freak spring tide, sweeping away entire households, scattering possessions and hopeful dreams, drowning those without a powerful instinct for survival. Loving promises were denied or rewritten, once easy companions became artful combatants crouching behind counsel, oblivious to the costs. Once neglected domestic items were bitterly fought for, once easy trust was replaced by carefully worded “arrangements.”In the minds of the principals, the history of the marriage was redrafted to have been always doomed, love was recast as delusion. And the children? Counters in a game, bargaining chips for use by mothers, objects of financial or emotional neglect by fathers; the pretext for real or fantasized or cynically invented charges of abuse, usually by mothers, sometimes by fathers; dazed children shuttling weekly between households in co-parenting agreements, mislaid coats or pencil cases shrilly broadcast by one solicitor to another; children doomed to see their fathers once or twice a month, or never, as the most purposeful men vanished into the smithy of a hot new marriage to forge new offspring.

85. 音频_哈利播客第一&二季（28集）

因为听“跳岛FM”关于哈利波特的一期节目，而去扒了嘉宾婉莹所制作的逐章阅读罗琳原著的系列播客，终于知道了什么叫做文学重度发烧友。在前两季节目中，婉莹从词源的角度分析了书中人名、咒语、课程、物品等构词含义，补充了她从国外网站和纪录片中收集的关于魔法世界的背景信息，还指出了大陆版和台湾版《哈利波特》中的错译和漏译问题。总之，听完之后的我，产生了明年重读原著和重刷电影的冲动。

86. 纪录片：Jude Ho_Harry Potter: A History of Magic

【Quote】Magic is about empowerment, but it’s also an acknowledgement that we are in a scary and unknowable world because we know that these ritual practices go back to what we now would call primitive peoples. Yet we still do a version of it today; it’s a way of trying to control what we secretly know is uncontrollable, which is life.

87. 书籍：许渊冲_经典英译古代诗歌1000首:唐诗(上)

【Quote】泊秦淮 Moored on River Qinhuai

烟笼寒水月笼沙， Cold river with sand bars veiled in misty moonlight,

夜泊秦淮近酒家。 I moor on River Qinhuai near wine shops at night.

商女不知亡国恨， The songstress knowing not the grief of conquered land,

隔江犹唱后庭花。 Still sings the song composed by a captive king’s hand.

88. 书籍：许渊冲_经典英译古代诗歌1000首:唐诗(下)

【Quote】《月下独酌》 Drinking Alone under the Moon

花间一壶酒， Among the flowers, from a pot of wine

独酌无相亲。 I drink without a companion of mine.

举杯邀明月， I raise my cup to invite the Moon who blends

对影成三人。 Her light with my Shadow and we’re three friends.

月既不解饮， The Moon does not know how to drink her share;

影徒随我身。 In vain my Shadow follows me here and there.

暂伴月将影， Together with them for the time I stay,

行乐须及春。 And make merry before spring’s spent away.

我歌月徘徊， I sing and the Moon lingers to hear my song;

我舞影零乱。 My Shadow’s a mess while I dance along.

醒时同交欢， Sober, we three remain cheerful and gay;

醉后各分散。 Drunken, we part and each may go his way.

永结无情游， Our friendship will outshine all earthly love;

相期邈云汉。 Next time we’ll meet beyond the stars above.

89. 书籍：许渊冲_经典英译古代诗歌1000首:宋词(上)***

【Quote】西江月 Tune: The moon over the West River

明月别枝惊鹊， Startled by magpies leaving the branch in moonlight,

清风半夜鸣蝉。 I hear cicadas shrill in the breeze at midnight.

稻花香里说丰年， The ricefields' sweet smell promises a bumper year;

听取蛙声一片。 Listen, how frogs’croaks please the ear!

七八个星天外， Beyond the clouds seven or eight stars twinkle;

两三点雨山前。 Before the hills two or three raindrops sprinkle.

旧时茅店社林边， There is an inn beside the village temple. Look!

路转溪桥忽见。 The winding path leads to the hut beside the brook.

第1-2句译文体现修饰语的作用：Ved短语作前置状语+主句主语“I”的补出，点明了谁被喜鹊“惊吓”，谁在聆听“鸣蝉”。

第3-4句译文体现动词是语义的推动力：1）“说丰年”的发出者原本是人，但XYZ妙译作“promise”，即稻香“预示”了丰年；2）“听取蛙声”的发出者也是人，XYZ改写为“please”，即蛙声“取悦”了耳朵。

第5-6句译文体现平行结构的美感：两句都是前置介词短语+主语+动词构成，不仅句首的“beyond”和“before”押头韵，而且句末的“twinkle”and“sprinkle”押尾韵。

第7-8句译文体现标点也可以传神：前句尾部所增译的“look+感叹号”，一方面为了与后句尾部的“brook”押韵，另一方面也表达出诗人在小径“忽见”时内心的惊喜。

90. 网课：叶嘉莹_十家词（10集）

【Quote】所有词人写得好的，都是用生命的苦难换来的。辛弃疾20岁带兵起义到南宋，他以为凭自己的才敢谋略能够转眼就收复山东老家的失地，可是直到他60多岁死去，永远也回不去了。所以，稼轩的词虽然是豪放的，但它里面有着非常深刻的悲哀。苏东坡写的《水龙吟》，表面上说的是柳絮，其实说的都是他自己被贬谪的悲哀。词这个体裁曲折变化，不像诗是进行直接的感发，而是传达幽约苑悱不能言说之情。王国维说：“遂变伶工之词为士大夫之词”，它不再是给歌女唱的歌词了，而是文人诗客言志抒情的作品了。上好的词都是弱德之美。人努力前行，这是通常的德行。而人委曲求全，又保持自身的品格和理想，这就是弱德之美。

# 话剧/单口

91. 话剧：胡宗琪_白鹿原***

我的剧评：https://www.douban.com/location/drama/review/13627705/

92. 话剧：孟京辉_两只狗的生活意见

《两只狗》一晚上看下来，真心觉得俩舞台剧演员不易，除了较好的台词和体形功底，还得唱歌弹琴敲架子鼓，诗歌朗诵跳民族舞，大咖模仿加cue现场。非常欣赏他们谢幕说的一句话：本场演出看似很多地方即兴发挥，其实都是台下反复推敲精心设计。这道理也同样适用于托福写作啊。

93. 话剧：王光皓_一亿亿亿字节人生

第一次看所谓“浸入式话剧”，但当天车途劳顿，现场真没看进去，不太推荐的作品。

94. 音频：周奇墨_十大单口喜剧专场(20集)

【Quote】宋飞说，“Stand-up is a loud desperation”，意思是，单口喜剧是把一个人的内心世界，尤其是痛苦的世界，搬到舞台上。所以他说，单口演员在某种程度上，需要对外界封闭自己，这才是最棒、最舒服的，是他营养的来源。爆火是件非常危险的事，因为能量被分散到各处，是在身为明星而忙碌，而不是一个演员。

95. 单口：Hannah Gadsby_Nanette***

【Quote】I don’t hate men, but I wonder how a man would feel if they’d lived my life. Because it was a man who sexually abused me when I was a child. It was a man who beat the shit out of me when I was 17, my prime. It was two men who raped me when I was barely in my twenties. Tell me why is that okay. Why was it okay to pick me off the pack like that and do that to me? It would have been more humane to just take me out to the back paddock and put a bullet in my head if it is that much of a crime to be different!

I don’t tell you this so you think of me as a victim. I am not a victim. I tell you this because my story has value. I tell you this ‘cause I want you to know, I need you to know, what I know. To be rendered powerless does not destroy your humanity. Your resilience is your humanity. The only people who lose their humanity are those who believe they have the right to render another human being powerless. They are the weak. To yield and not break, that is incredible strength. You destroy the woman, you destroy the past she represents. I will not allow my story to be destroyed. What I would have done to have heard a story like mine. Not for blame. Not for reputation, not for money, not for power. But to feel less alone. To feel connected. I want my story heard. Because, ironically, I believe Picasso was right. I believe we could paint a better world if we learned how to see it from all perspectives, as many perspectives as we possibly could. Because diversity is strength. Difference is a teacher. Fear difference, you learn nothing.

96. 单口：Hannah Gadsby: Douglas

【Quote】Men calling women hormonal. Pretty much it’s the number one hobby of mankind of all time. Like, a man is allowed to call a woman hormonal just whenever a woman says or does something a man failed to predict. That’s it. It’s like, “I wasn’t expecting that, so, clearly, you’re just a clusterfuck of internalized chaos, you make up to be a bitch.”Like, men call women hormonal as if men don’t have hormones. That’s the bit that shits me. Because newsflash, fellas, you’ve got hormones. And sometimes you get testy... Do you know what “boys will be boys”means? It means we are not preparing our boys for the real world. It means we know that boys are at the mercy of their hormones. We’re just culturally incapable of holding them accountable for their actions, so we hold women accountable.

97. 单口：Simon Amstell: Do Nothing***

【Quote1】I realized, in everything that I was saying, what was underneath my words was essentially, “why can't you just be less judgemental, and more like me?”which is judgemental and arrogant, to try and change somebody else’s perspective just so that the world can seem better for me. It’s important that we have these contrasts in life. Nothing ever got created from things being the same. It’s from the contrasts in life that anything happens. I realized in the end that I couldn't change them, all I could was change my perspective on them, and then move on with my life.

【Quote2】I saw the film Waking Life. I don’t know if you've seen it, but one line stood out for me. “Actual self-awareness is the knowledge that you are a character in someone else’s dream.”I love this idea that it could all be a dream, and it’s somebody else’s dream. I makes everything so silly. There’s no need to fear anything, no need to feel anxious about anything. It's all a dream. And if you’re playing a character, and that character isn’t serving you, that shy, anxious character who can’t talk to people, let go of the character. Become a different character.

98. 单口：George Carlin_It's Bad for Ya!***

【Quote1】I could never understand ethnic or national pride because, to me, pride should be reserved for something you achieve or attain on your own, not something that happens by accident of birth. Being Irish isn’t a skill. It’s a f**king genetic accident. So, why the f**k would you be proud to be Irish or proud to be Italian or American or anything?

【Quote2】Not important to get children to read. Children who want to read are going to read. Much more important to teach children to question what they read. Children should be taught to question authority. Parents never teach their children to question authority because parents are authority figures themselves, and they don’t want to undermine their own bullshit inside the household.

99. 单口：Dave Chappelle_Equanimity

【Quote】I don’t understood all the choices that people make, but I do understand that life is hard, and that those types of choices do not disqualify you from a life with dignity and happiness and safety in it.

100. 单口：Dave Chappelle_The Age of Spin

【Quote】I’m getting over one cop shooting, and then another one happens, and then another one happens and another happens. I’m crying about Paris, and then Brussels happens. I can’t keep trace of all this shit. So you just give the f**k up. That’s the hallmark of your generation, and that’s f**ked up because your generation lives in the most difficult time in human history. This is the age of spin, the age when nobody knows what the f**k they’re even looking at. So a guy at your age doesn’t really know how he feels.

101. 单口：Trevor Noah: Son of Patricia

【Quote】Everywhere you go, Americans love tacos. Even people you wouldn’t expect. I was watching the news one day, and there was a guy at a rally, and they were asking him about immigration and families being separated, etc. This guy, regardless of his politics, he was being really mean and xenophobic, and racist. The journalist asked him about children and he just went straight in, he was like, “Boy, I tell you what, I don’t give a damn about any of these goddamn Mexicans. They ain’t supposed to be here, boy. Wooo! It’s our country now, you hear? Go back to where you came from. Wooo! These Mexicans ain’t done nothing good. Ain’t broughtnothing good to America. We don’t need y’all. Come on, Bubba. It’s Taco Tuesday.” Get out of here, but leave the recipes. I feel like there should be a rule in America: you can hate immigrants all you want, but if you do, you don’t get to eat their food.