我真正开始爱自己 vs 如果你真的爱我

真是英雄所见略同，啊啊啊，书中自有颜如玉！

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当我真正开始爱自己， 我才认识到，所有的痛苦和情感的折磨， 都只是提醒我：活着，不要违背自己的本心。 今天我明白了，这叫做 『真实』。

当我真正开始爱自己， 我才懂得，把自己的愿望强加于人， 是多么的无礼，就算我知道，时机并不成熟， 那人也还没有做好准备， 就算那个人就是我自己， 今天我明白了，这叫做 『尊重』。

当我开始爱自己， 我不再渴求不同的人生， 我知道任何发生在我身边的事情， 都是对我成长的邀请。 如今，我称之为 『成熟』。

当我开始真正爱自己， 我才明白，我其实一直都在正确的时间， 正确的地方，发生的一切都恰如其分。 由此我得以平静。 今天我明白了，这叫做 『自信』。

当我开始真正爱自己， 我不再牺牲自己的自由时间， 不再去勾画什么宏伟的明天。 今天我只做有趣和快乐的事， 做自己热爱，让心欢喜的事， 用我的方式，以我的韵律。 今天我明白了，这叫做 『单纯』。

当我开始真正爱自己， 我开始远离一切不健康的东西。 不论是饮食和人物，还是事情和环境， 我远离一切让我远离本真的东西。 从前我把这叫做“追求健康的自私自利”， 但今天我明白了，这是 『自爱』。

当我开始真正爱自己， 我不再总想着要永远正确，不犯错误。 我今天明白了，这叫做 『谦逊』。

当我开始真正爱自己， 我不再继续沉溺于过去， 也不再为明天而忧虑， 现在我只活在一切正在发生的当下， 今天，我活在此时此地， 如此日复一日。这就叫 『完美』。 当我开始真正爱自己， 我明白，我的思虑让我变得贫乏和病态， 但当我唤起了心灵的力量， 理智就变成了一个重要的伙伴， 这种组合我称之为， 『心的智慧』。

我们无须再害怕自己和他人的分歧，矛盾和问题， 因为即使星星有时也会碰在一起， 形成新的世界， 今天我明白，这就是『生命』

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《如果你爱我》

如果你爱我

如果你爱我， 请你爱我之前先爱你自己 爱我的同时也爱着你自己 你若不爱你自 你便无法来爱我 这是爱的法则 因为 你不可能给出 你没有的东西 你的爱 只能经由你而流向我 若你是干涸的 我便不能被你滋养 若因滋养我而干涸你 本质上无法成立 因为 剥削你并不能让我得到滋养 把你碗里的饭倒进我的碗里 看着你拿着空碗去乞讨 并不能让我受到滋养 牺牲你自己来满足我的需要 那并不能让我幸福快乐 那就像 你给我戴上王冠 却将它嵌进我的肉里 疼痛我的灵魂 宣称自我牺牲是伟大的 那是一个古老的谎言 你贬低自己 并不能使我高贵 我只能从你那里学到“我不值得” 自我牺牲里没有滋养 有的是期待、压力和负担 若我没有符合你的期望 我从你那里拿来的 便不再是营养 而是毒药 它制造了内疚、怨恨，甚至仇恨 我愿你的爱像阳光 我感受到温暖、自在、丰盛喜悦 我在你的爱里滋养、成长 我从你那里学会无条件的给予 因为你让我知晓我的富足 与那爱的源头连接，永不枯竭 永远照耀 请爱你自己吧 在爱他人之前先爱自己 爱自己不是自私 牺牲自己并不是爱的表达方式 爱的源头就在那里 然而，除非你让自己成为管道 爱不能经由你而流向我 你若连接 爱会滋养你我双方 你若断开连接 爱便不能经由你而流向我 你的爱便不是真爱 而是自我牺牲 然而，那不是我想要的 爱自己，是生命的法则 除非爱自己 你不可能滋养到别人 我愿意看到充满爱和滋养的你 而不是自我牺牲的你 因为，我也爱你 我爱你 必先爱我自己 否则，我无法爱你 而你，亦当如此 生命的本质是生生不息的流动 生命如此 爱如此 请借此机会好好爱自己 维吉丽亚·萨提亚

作者：维吉丽亚·萨提亚

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Charlie Chaplin –

as I began to love myself As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody if I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it “RESPECT”.

As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it “MATURITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE”.

As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it “SIMPLICITY”.

As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF”.

As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is “MODESTY”.

As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worrying about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILLMENT”.

As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART”.

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know “THAT IS LIFE”!

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“As I Began to Love Myself”: A Wonderful Poem by Charlie Chaplin

One of Charlie Chaplin’s most famous poems, one that offers a fabulous lesson on personal growth, goes like this:

“As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at exactly the right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call it ‘SELF-CONFIDENCE.'”

In history, there was a time when in the world of art, science, and culture, only two names stood above the rest. They were Charlie Chaplin and Sigmund Freud.

If Chaplin had a famous and admired face, Freud had, apparently, the most brilliant mind.

“We shouldn’t be afraid of the unknown because, even when they wander into chaos, planets are born stars!” -Charlie Chaplin-

Both of these figures were so famous that Hollywood tried for many years to get the father of psychoanalysis to get involved in a big production.

It was in 1925 whenthe head of MGM (Metro-Goldwyn-Mayer),Samuel Goldwyn, called Freud to praise his work and publications. He called him “the world’s greatest specialist in love.”

Then, he asked Freud to collaborate on a new project by helping with an assessment: “Antony and Cleopatra.”

Goldwyn offered him over $100,000, but Freud said “no.”The psychoanalyst was so upset about that kind of art that he started to think he hated movies and the whole film industry.

But, in 1931Sigmund Freud wrote a letter to a friend revealing his deep admiration for someone he called a “genius.”Someone who seemed to him to be showing the world man’s most admirable and inspiring transparency.It was Charlie Chaplin.

In the letter, Freud superficially analyzed what Chaplin projected about himself in his movies. Someone from a humble background, who had a hard childhood, and yet enters maturity with strongly defined values.

So it didn’t matter what kind of hardships he went through every day,Chaplin would always maintain that humble heart.

That’s why, despite the setbacks and complex, unequal society, he always ended up solving his problems through love.

We don’t know if Freud was right or not in his analysis. But this is at least what Chaplin seemed to be showing in his movies and especially his poems. True lessons about wisdom and personal growth.

Charlie Chaplin, the Man Behind the Poem

They say thatCharlie Chaplin wrote this poem, “As I Began to Love Myself,”when he was seventy years old.

But, according to other people, it couldn’t have been written by him, and is actually a somewhat free adaptation of a paragraph in the book“When I Loved Myself Enough” by Kim and Allison McMillen.

Either way, it’s worth saying that it’s not the only text by Chaplin where he creates such a beautiful and delicate text on power and the value of our minds.

In fact, herewe also have the poem “Live!” It reminds us, among other things, that the world belongs to whoever dares to take it. That livingisn’t just going through lifebut fighting, feeling, experiencing, loving fiercely.

So, it doesn’t really matter if the poem is an adaptation of a different one, or if it came from the mind and heart of the iconic genius who captivated us with his movements, his mustache, and his cane.

Charlot, the run-down character, that solitary wanderer, poet, and dreamer who was always looking for romance or adventure, had an extremely clear mind behind all that.

The mind of a man with very clear ideas about the message he wanted to send. And what he gave us with his productions lines up perfectly with every word in this poem.

In fact, in his memoir he talked about howeach aspect in his character’s costume had a meaning:

• His pants were a challenge to convictions.
• His hat and cane were an attempt to seem dignified.
• The little mustache, a hint of vanity.
• His shoes, the setbacks that get in people’s ways all the time.

Charlie Chaplin Woke Us Up

Also,something Charlie Chaplin always tried to do through the innocence of his character was to raise our awareness.

To wake us up to the complex paradoxes of our world. A place where only human, psychological strengths can confront senselessness, inequality, orevil.

We see something like that in “The Great Dictator.” It’s where he invites us to connect with ourselves and all other human beings. To defend not just our rights but the rights of our planet.

Even today Chaplin’s legacy is very present. In fact, it will always be necessary and indispensable.

Because the lessons given in the tragicomedy are the ones that make us think the most. And poems like “As I Began to Love Myself,” are gifts for our heart, direct invitations to better ourselves.

As I Began to Love Myself, Charlie Chaplin

As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE.”

As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY.”

As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different lie, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it“MATURITY.”

As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody if I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it “RESPECT.”

As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health — food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is“LOVE OF ONESELF.”

As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it“SIMPLICITY.”

As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is“MODESTY.” As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worrying about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it“FULFILLMENT.”

As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and make me sick. But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection“WISDOM OF THE HEART.”