women don’t ask 读书笔记（一）

Why ask/negotiate？

Is your fate influenced more by internal or external factors? Is your life controlled by yourself or others? 把自己的本职工作做好 然后老板就会看到就一定会主动给你升职加薪？too young too naive。“会哭的孩子有奶吃”，话糙理不糙。

He discovered that most people were grateful to know what he wanted. His bosses, colleagues, and clients regarded knowledge of his desires as useful and important information. They often couldn’t give him what he wanted, but when the resources were available and they agreed his requests made good business sense, they tried to accommodate him.你不提出，你的老板可能都不知道你有这种需求。把你的命运压在老板能不能读懂你的心，这个赌注有点大。而且即使你的老板感受到了你的这种需求，可能也迫于先安定一些主动提出需求的下属的考虑而delay你的需求，毕竟urgent》critical 么。