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DDL is near.
Every day I write down the date, my heart gets more anxious.
But please don't. It is not useful to get anxious. Now, I should clear my heart and find the strength inside me.
Seven Habits:
1. Be Proactive.
2. Beginning with the End in Mind.
3. Put First Things First.
4. Think Win/Win.
5. Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood.
6. Synergize.
7. Sharpen the Saw.
Do I want to be a person like Shichao?
No. He has unique merits, but he abuses his life too much with so many bad habits and a heart that cares about nothing.
Ok. Then we solve the first problem.
Is there anything meaningful in what he said?
Yes. He makes me realize the fear in my heart. Although bad things passed, they still left scars in my heart. But I should not mistake scars as real wounds. I should be proactive in interpersonal interactions. I should understand that group social is necessary for my career and life goals. I will need to organize my friends, to meet the family of my partner, to join team-work, and to promote social movements. All those activities need smooth interpersonal relationships. So from now on, I should deliberately develop my grouping social skills.
Ok. problem two cracked.
How should I interact with Shichao, or people different from me?
First, you should grantee that you have stuck to the first three habit, believing in your own responsibility, knowing what is important to you, and giving consequential things priorities.
Then, during your interaction, you should express your opinion and needs, but still, understand that he is likely to be different from you. Then but actively figure out the similarities and differences between you and others, you can think from a win/win perspective and come with ideas that can synergize each person's advantages and demands.
Always remember that you do not need to answer immediately, instead, you can ask for space to think things through. Remember that time waits for no one, except those who use the time to reflect and grow up.
Last question, what should I improve in my work?
Set up a goal and stick to it. Don't be distracted by emotions.
Every day I write down the date, my heart gets more anxious.
But please don't. It is not useful to get anxious. Now, I should clear my heart and find the strength inside me.
Seven Habits:
1. Be Proactive.
2. Beginning with the End in Mind.
3. Put First Things First.
4. Think Win/Win.
5. Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood.
6. Synergize.
7. Sharpen the Saw.
Do I want to be a person like Shichao?
No. He has unique merits, but he abuses his life too much with so many bad habits and a heart that cares about nothing.
Ok. Then we solve the first problem.
Is there anything meaningful in what he said?
Yes. He makes me realize the fear in my heart. Although bad things passed, they still left scars in my heart. But I should not mistake scars as real wounds. I should be proactive in interpersonal interactions. I should understand that group social is necessary for my career and life goals. I will need to organize my friends, to meet the family of my partner, to join team-work, and to promote social movements. All those activities need smooth interpersonal relationships. So from now on, I should deliberately develop my grouping social skills.
Ok. problem two cracked.
How should I interact with Shichao, or people different from me?
First, you should grantee that you have stuck to the first three habit, believing in your own responsibility, knowing what is important to you, and giving consequential things priorities.
Then, during your interaction, you should express your opinion and needs, but still, understand that he is likely to be different from you. Then but actively figure out the similarities and differences between you and others, you can think from a win/win perspective and come with ideas that can synergize each person's advantages and demands.
Always remember that you do not need to answer immediately, instead, you can ask for space to think things through. Remember that time waits for no one, except those who use the time to reflect and grow up.
Last question, what should I improve in my work?
Set up a goal and stick to it. Don't be distracted by emotions.
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