情绪是我们灵魂的声音（转）
Our Emotions Are the Voice of Our Soul
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jenny-florence/our-emotions-are-the-voice-of-our-soul_b_5723468.html
摘要和心得（送给不愿仔细看原文的朋友）：
💎不要逃避压抑自己的情绪，而要认真面对自己的情绪，就像对待一个受伤的小孩。那个小孩就是你自己。
💎情绪深刻细致的反应了自己的需求。负面情绪大多源于恐惧。人做事的基本动力源泉都是出于情绪，或正或负。情绪的力量很强大。所以，对情绪做到跳出来审视，疏导很重要。要做到对自己这个能力的培养。
💎情绪本身不决定解决问题的办法
解决问题之路，要建立在深刻解读自己情绪背后的需求，并要有强烈满足自己需求的动机，同时对解决方案的结果充满正面希望，也就是背后有神的支持。在这个基础上，再去暂时放空情绪，也就是淡定。
💎没有希望和解决问题作后阵，不去解读自己情绪背后的伤痛和需求及满足需求的办法，而只是简单粗暴地去压抑自己的情绪，就如同让人被迫溺水一样。希望，是人“生”的内在力量。
还有一种误区是通过破坏别人内心的宁静来达到自己内心的宁静。毫无建设性。根据弗洛伊德的理论，这种破坏欲确实能有效得到内心平静，比如两人激烈争吵之后，会得到前所未有的内心平静。但笔者并不提倡，因为这不符合道。毫无建设性，并且会循环。以下是笔者建议的:
💎❤️找到解决方案需要过程。在这个过程中，人需要找到理性，控制情绪。情绪就像水一样，可以很有灵性，但需要主动采取科学措施随时加以检测，修补，控制。否则就会导致洪水泛滥的灾害，我们内在的灾害。
💎❤️这里笔者提示一句：在解决问题的道路上，有时会出现一种险境，也就是，没有解决之道，或解决之道就是让自己进入另一个绝境。这时，你该怎么办？这时，无论你如何恐惧，千万不要为了寻求暂时安稳，而违背了道，千万不要选择小偷小摸。
笔者建议选择一种灵临危不惧的气场，一种对神、对生、对希望保持最强大信心的态度。
比如，刘备被敌人逼到绝境不得不骑马跳河而绝不投降或气馁。武则天在去泰山时已知敌人有埋伏时却毅然决定前往的这种明知山有虎偏向虎山行的气概。她称之为“劫数”。既然逃不过，那就去。
结果嘞？刘备的神马奇迹般的带他脱离了险境。武则天的情况也因为其他不可预测的因素化险为夷。
又回到之前的状况，当你无路可走时，保持对神，对生，对希望最完整的信心，在那种时刻，一场关键。一定会有奇迹发生来保佑你。
因为暂时的害怕、悲观而背叛自己的希望，欲望，道。而去选择投降，放弃，改变而不去尝试，最终是得不到神的护佑的，也不会有奇迹发生。
💎💎💎最后感慨：
如果把我们的生命过程比做一场短暂的在这个世界的过程，那么我们的永恒就是在生前身后了。这个在很多东西方文化中均有体现。比如中国的《西游记》，还有西方的电影《黑客帝国》《盗梦空间》。我们的内心欲望及其遭遇，不正如唐僧么？一直向往美好（西天），一直相信真爱（佛祖，菩萨），但也时不时步入（妖魔鬼怪所设的）陷阱，被骗。唐僧肉眼凡胎，善总是被利用。这里的妖怪，不是指每个具体的人，而更是指我们每个人都具有的内心的心魔。若不好好选择、梳理、和控制自己内心的欲望，将自己的欲望都归于神来管理，那些欲望就会被魔鬼所控。那些受魔鬼送控的人就如同丧尸，没有爱，不会爱。其身边的人很容易出于恐惧之中。美国电视剧《行尸走肉》就是反映了这种生存状态。
但，对待丧尸和妖怪，中外的态度是一致的。西游记中，总是真神出现打败妖怪。西方电影中，如很多《吸血鬼》系列电影，十字架是吸血鬼最怕的。而对待吸血鬼最好的办法，不是受其诱惑，被其吓走，供其血源，就像唐僧去救白骨精化作的老弱病残那样。而是要像孙悟空那样干脆狠心的直接灭掉妖魔。但说的容易。很多人还是毁在了自己的肉眼凡胎上。像唐僧那样不愿去相信那个他所同情的可怜人其实是魔鬼。对于这种人类的昏聩，圣经中有着专门的评论：不要相信眼睛看到的。西方电影《盗梦空间》和《黑客帝国》都用隐喻的方式描述了人类如何昏聩。《盗》有个电影片段是，一帮人睡去。被评论说，他们是在做梦，但他们却认为梦中的自己才是真实的。这正反映了我们的世界体系中truth 和realty的混淆。很多人只愿意接受负面，只愿意去记住伤痛。因为那样很容易。但别忘了人类的罪性sin.正是最容易被魔鬼所控的。看到事物的正面，选择离开，而不是拯救白骨精，这些很浅显易懂的大道理，要做起来，却是违背人性（人的罪性），需要修炼和付出代价的。
但唐僧虽然软弱昏聩，他却有一个致命优点：信。坚信神的存在，神在帮他。即使是在最恐惧的气氛中，最强烈的诱惑下。神也确实存在。但唐僧最终得到，靠的还是他的信。这点，需要我们在修炼中切记。我们肉眼凡胎不要紧，看不透魔鬼不要紧，入了陷阱被虐不要紧。最要紧的是要信。神就在你自己的心里。只要你不随着自己的情绪走，而是自信聆听自己内心的声音，自然就会有了解药。然后下一步就是，按照自己内心的声音去做。当然，这还需要毅力。想想唐僧的毅力吧。你也需要那样。只有这样，才会产生上述的武则天和刘备那样的大无畏并且智慧的决定。所有奇迹的发生都是神的出现。而只有靠信才能得到神的祝福和超出凡人想象的护佑。
💎💎信。
🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍬🍬🍬🍬🍬🍬🍬
原文：
The most important relationship that we have in our adult lives is the relationship that we have with ourselves, our relationship with our emotions.
If our eyes are the windows of our soul, then our emotions are the voice of our soul.
Our emotions connect us to the deepest parts of our inner selves. They are our connection to our inner knowing, to our inner voice. They connect us to the very core of how we feel about ourselves, about others and about life itself.
When we talk about self-esteem, we are talking about a reflection of our true inner sense of well-being, a picture of our deepest, inner sense of self value. Our self-esteem is a reflection of the way that we feel about ourselves.
Our self-esteem is a picture of the well-being of our soul, and our emotions will let us know what kind of shape we are in.
Human beings are relational, this is how we grow and this is how we develop. We are in a continual state of relating, a continuous state of relational evolution.
Our emotions form the connection between all elements of ourselves, and all aspects of our lives, both inner and outer. They are the absolute expression of relatedness and of relationship. They give voice to the exchange of everything that is taking place in our pure and real experience.
And yet so many of us have never learned to listen to ourselves. We have never learned to develop a relationship with ourselves, with our emotions, indeed many people have learned to be frightened of what they feel.
Our emotions, our feelings, are our navigational system. They give us information. And from the very deepest parts of ourselves, they give us a voice. And this voice in turn, generates emotionally charged energy.
Our emotions infuse thought and action with power.
Our emotions are invisible and yet everything that we create and generate, both good and bad, helpful and unhelpful, is fueled into being by raw emotional energy. And this energy is directional.
Human beings are emotionally driven. Our emotionally charged energy can be constructive beyond measure, or destructive beyond measure, depending upon the direction or channel through which it's arriving into the world.>
It can be channeled for the good, or it can be channeled for the bad. As adults we have a choice in this. We only have to look around us, or pick up a newspaper, to recognize and see the sheer scale of emotionally fueled situations, as well as the sheer scale of the outcomes.
The power of raw emotion is extraordinary. I'm sure that we can all think of situations where people overcome difficulty or generate some extraordinary happening in the world benefiting others and generating hope and well-being. These are profoundly powerful, emotionally driven situations that are overflowing with good.
We feel moved by them, we feel touched. Something has reached into us and touched us at the very deepest level of our being.
The kinds of situations that I am talking about, touch our hearts, and touch our souls.
Likewise I am sure that we can also think of profoundly powerful, emotionally driven situations that are incredibly destructive, and damaging. These situations are also highly emotionally charged, but they are not overflowing with good and they are almost certainly fueled by fear.
Bearing witness to these events also reaches inside of us and touches us at the very deepest level of our being. When we bear witness to the power of human destructiveness, it is literally, soul destroying.
Our emotions are always live and online. They are in a continual state of movement, a continual state of relationship. Our emotions are fluid and like water they flow through the channels that we provide for them. And as this takes place our raw highly charged emotional energy becomes directional.
Our mind is the tool that interprets the information that our emotions are giving us. It is our mind that puts us in the driving seat and enables us to decide which direction we want to go in, how fast we want to go, when to change gear and when to put the brakes on.
Our emotions give us the navigational information that we need in order to make decisions and our emotions put fuel in the tank, and oil in the engine, giving us the driving force and the energy to create opportunity and possibility.
The meeting of our mind with our emotions is a powerful relationship. And in your adult life, this relationship will be the most influential and significant relationship that you will ever have.
The health of any relationship will be determined by the health of its communication and by its mutual understanding and relational flow and exchange.
Without an emotional language our relationship with ourselves will be fraught with difficulty. And yet most of us have never learned to listen to ourselves and rarely even think about our emotional health as an absolute priority..... until something goes wrong.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jenny-florence/our-emotions-are-the-voice-of-our-soul_b_5723468.html
摘要和心得（送给不愿仔细看原文的朋友）：
💎不要逃避压抑自己的情绪，而要认真面对自己的情绪，就像对待一个受伤的小孩。那个小孩就是你自己。
💎情绪深刻细致的反应了自己的需求。负面情绪大多源于恐惧。人做事的基本动力源泉都是出于情绪，或正或负。情绪的力量很强大。所以，对情绪做到跳出来审视，疏导很重要。要做到对自己这个能力的培养。
💎情绪本身不决定解决问题的办法
解决问题之路，要建立在深刻解读自己情绪背后的需求，并要有强烈满足自己需求的动机，同时对解决方案的结果充满正面希望，也就是背后有神的支持。在这个基础上，再去暂时放空情绪，也就是淡定。
💎没有希望和解决问题作后阵，不去解读自己情绪背后的伤痛和需求及满足需求的办法，而只是简单粗暴地去压抑自己的情绪，就如同让人被迫溺水一样。希望，是人“生”的内在力量。
还有一种误区是通过破坏别人内心的宁静来达到自己内心的宁静。毫无建设性。根据弗洛伊德的理论，这种破坏欲确实能有效得到内心平静，比如两人激烈争吵之后，会得到前所未有的内心平静。但笔者并不提倡，因为这不符合道。毫无建设性，并且会循环。以下是笔者建议的:
💎❤️找到解决方案需要过程。在这个过程中，人需要找到理性，控制情绪。情绪就像水一样，可以很有灵性，但需要主动采取科学措施随时加以检测，修补，控制。否则就会导致洪水泛滥的灾害，我们内在的灾害。
💎❤️这里笔者提示一句：在解决问题的道路上，有时会出现一种险境，也就是，没有解决之道，或解决之道就是让自己进入另一个绝境。这时，你该怎么办？这时，无论你如何恐惧，千万不要为了寻求暂时安稳，而违背了道，千万不要选择小偷小摸。
笔者建议选择一种灵临危不惧的气场，一种对神、对生、对希望保持最强大信心的态度。
比如，刘备被敌人逼到绝境不得不骑马跳河而绝不投降或气馁。武则天在去泰山时已知敌人有埋伏时却毅然决定前往的这种明知山有虎偏向虎山行的气概。她称之为“劫数”。既然逃不过，那就去。
结果嘞？刘备的神马奇迹般的带他脱离了险境。武则天的情况也因为其他不可预测的因素化险为夷。
又回到之前的状况，当你无路可走时，保持对神，对生，对希望最完整的信心，在那种时刻，一场关键。一定会有奇迹发生来保佑你。
因为暂时的害怕、悲观而背叛自己的希望，欲望，道。而去选择投降，放弃，改变而不去尝试，最终是得不到神的护佑的，也不会有奇迹发生。
💎💎💎最后感慨：
如果把我们的生命过程比做一场短暂的在这个世界的过程，那么我们的永恒就是在生前身后了。这个在很多东西方文化中均有体现。比如中国的《西游记》，还有西方的电影《黑客帝国》《盗梦空间》。我们的内心欲望及其遭遇，不正如唐僧么？一直向往美好（西天），一直相信真爱（佛祖，菩萨），但也时不时步入（妖魔鬼怪所设的）陷阱，被骗。唐僧肉眼凡胎，善总是被利用。这里的妖怪，不是指每个具体的人，而更是指我们每个人都具有的内心的心魔。若不好好选择、梳理、和控制自己内心的欲望，将自己的欲望都归于神来管理，那些欲望就会被魔鬼所控。那些受魔鬼送控的人就如同丧尸，没有爱，不会爱。其身边的人很容易出于恐惧之中。美国电视剧《行尸走肉》就是反映了这种生存状态。
但，对待丧尸和妖怪，中外的态度是一致的。西游记中，总是真神出现打败妖怪。西方电影中，如很多《吸血鬼》系列电影，十字架是吸血鬼最怕的。而对待吸血鬼最好的办法，不是受其诱惑，被其吓走，供其血源，就像唐僧去救白骨精化作的老弱病残那样。而是要像孙悟空那样干脆狠心的直接灭掉妖魔。但说的容易。很多人还是毁在了自己的肉眼凡胎上。像唐僧那样不愿去相信那个他所同情的可怜人其实是魔鬼。对于这种人类的昏聩，圣经中有着专门的评论：不要相信眼睛看到的。西方电影《盗梦空间》和《黑客帝国》都用隐喻的方式描述了人类如何昏聩。《盗》有个电影片段是，一帮人睡去。被评论说，他们是在做梦，但他们却认为梦中的自己才是真实的。这正反映了我们的世界体系中truth 和realty的混淆。很多人只愿意接受负面，只愿意去记住伤痛。因为那样很容易。但别忘了人类的罪性sin.正是最容易被魔鬼所控的。看到事物的正面，选择离开，而不是拯救白骨精，这些很浅显易懂的大道理，要做起来，却是违背人性（人的罪性），需要修炼和付出代价的。
但唐僧虽然软弱昏聩，他却有一个致命优点：信。坚信神的存在，神在帮他。即使是在最恐惧的气氛中，最强烈的诱惑下。神也确实存在。但唐僧最终得到，靠的还是他的信。这点，需要我们在修炼中切记。我们肉眼凡胎不要紧，看不透魔鬼不要紧，入了陷阱被虐不要紧。最要紧的是要信。神就在你自己的心里。只要你不随着自己的情绪走，而是自信聆听自己内心的声音，自然就会有了解药。然后下一步就是，按照自己内心的声音去做。当然，这还需要毅力。想想唐僧的毅力吧。你也需要那样。只有这样，才会产生上述的武则天和刘备那样的大无畏并且智慧的决定。所有奇迹的发生都是神的出现。而只有靠信才能得到神的祝福和超出凡人想象的护佑。
💎💎信。
🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍬🍬🍬🍬🍬🍬🍬
原文：
The most important relationship that we have in our adult lives is the relationship that we have with ourselves, our relationship with our emotions.
If our eyes are the windows of our soul, then our emotions are the voice of our soul.
Our emotions connect us to the deepest parts of our inner selves. They are our connection to our inner knowing, to our inner voice. They connect us to the very core of how we feel about ourselves, about others and about life itself.
When we talk about self-esteem, we are talking about a reflection of our true inner sense of well-being, a picture of our deepest, inner sense of self value. Our self-esteem is a reflection of the way that we feel about ourselves.
Our self-esteem is a picture of the well-being of our soul, and our emotions will let us know what kind of shape we are in.
Human beings are relational, this is how we grow and this is how we develop. We are in a continual state of relating, a continuous state of relational evolution.
Our emotions form the connection between all elements of ourselves, and all aspects of our lives, both inner and outer. They are the absolute expression of relatedness and of relationship. They give voice to the exchange of everything that is taking place in our pure and real experience.
And yet so many of us have never learned to listen to ourselves. We have never learned to develop a relationship with ourselves, with our emotions, indeed many people have learned to be frightened of what they feel.
Our emotions, our feelings, are our navigational system. They give us information. And from the very deepest parts of ourselves, they give us a voice. And this voice in turn, generates emotionally charged energy.
Our emotions infuse thought and action with power.
Our emotions are invisible and yet everything that we create and generate, both good and bad, helpful and unhelpful, is fueled into being by raw emotional energy. And this energy is directional.
Human beings are emotionally driven. Our emotionally charged energy can be constructive beyond measure, or destructive beyond measure, depending upon the direction or channel through which it's arriving into the world.>
It can be channeled for the good, or it can be channeled for the bad. As adults we have a choice in this. We only have to look around us, or pick up a newspaper, to recognize and see the sheer scale of emotionally fueled situations, as well as the sheer scale of the outcomes.
The power of raw emotion is extraordinary. I'm sure that we can all think of situations where people overcome difficulty or generate some extraordinary happening in the world benefiting others and generating hope and well-being. These are profoundly powerful, emotionally driven situations that are overflowing with good.
We feel moved by them, we feel touched. Something has reached into us and touched us at the very deepest level of our being.
The kinds of situations that I am talking about, touch our hearts, and touch our souls.
Likewise I am sure that we can also think of profoundly powerful, emotionally driven situations that are incredibly destructive, and damaging. These situations are also highly emotionally charged, but they are not overflowing with good and they are almost certainly fueled by fear.
Bearing witness to these events also reaches inside of us and touches us at the very deepest level of our being. When we bear witness to the power of human destructiveness, it is literally, soul destroying.
Our emotions are always live and online. They are in a continual state of movement, a continual state of relationship. Our emotions are fluid and like water they flow through the channels that we provide for them. And as this takes place our raw highly charged emotional energy becomes directional.
Our mind is the tool that interprets the information that our emotions are giving us. It is our mind that puts us in the driving seat and enables us to decide which direction we want to go in, how fast we want to go, when to change gear and when to put the brakes on.
Our emotions give us the navigational information that we need in order to make decisions and our emotions put fuel in the tank, and oil in the engine, giving us the driving force and the energy to create opportunity and possibility.
The meeting of our mind with our emotions is a powerful relationship. And in your adult life, this relationship will be the most influential and significant relationship that you will ever have.
The health of any relationship will be determined by the health of its communication and by its mutual understanding and relational flow and exchange.
Without an emotional language our relationship with ourselves will be fraught with difficulty. And yet most of us have never learned to listen to ourselves and rarely even think about our emotional health as an absolute priority..... until something goes wrong.
