The rare exception is no exception
O(∩_∩)O素年锦时.担当
爱的本质，也许是一种考验。考验彼此的明暗人性，考验时间中人的意志与自控。欢愉幻觉，不过是表象的水花。深邃河流底下涌动的黑暗潮水，才需要身心潜伏，与之对抗突破。人年少时不得要领，对人性与时间未曾深入理解，于是也就没有宽悯、原谅、珍惜。需要更长远的路途，迂回转折，来回求索，才能获得对自己与他人的释然。
回头观望来路，看到荆棘残余，血肉横飞残酷青春如同白色素绢上面，残剩斑斑血迹。我们最终获得内心的释然，能够把它们涂抹成一树自开自谢的桃花，自由一种深意和优雅。
一切原本有迹可寻，一切也只有尝尽甘苦之后，才能坦然自若。
而世界上所有的幸福，原本都是平庸的。也是细微的，琐碎的，脆弱的。如果包裹着我们的时间和历史，是一条壮阔河流，幸福是早晨折射在波浪上的云霞和日光，是深夜的月色和雨水。
有些人和事的出现，是为了在我们的世界里打开一扇门，照亮一条通道。让你知道，曾经在一个幽闭的房间里没有烛火而固执地寻觅，是多么辛劳。有一些洁白的真相和黑暗的阴影，一起出现，互相映衬。门被打开，通道被呈现。生命因此获得新的提示，得以前行。为之付出的代价，是必须要背负在身上的行囊。它警示你不能停留，但可以在路途中栖息，获取这幸福的光芒。
如同在旅馆的梨花树下小坐，清茶浅酌，花好月圆。爱着一个人，并且被之所爱。长路且行且远，心里有着单纯而有力的意愿。
这所有的一切都要担当，并且感恩和宽悯。
———安妮宝贝
很早之前就读过，不喜欢她的文风，却挺喜欢这篇，关于担当的，也忽然忆起狐狸和小王子。
O(∩_∩)O狐狸对小王子说
狐狸对小王子说：＂因为你把时间投注在你的玫瑰花身上，所以，她才会如此重要．＂
狐狸对小王子说：＂人类已经忘记这个简单的真理了．不过，你不可以忘记，你必须对那些你所驯养的东西负责．你必须对你的玫瑰花儿负责．”
狐狸对小王子说的这句话真的可以解释很多事情。
“我的秘密、、、它很简单，我们只有用心灵才能看得透彻，真正重要的东西是肉眼无法看见的”
是的，双眼是盲目的，我们必须要用心才能看得到、、、
所有冠冕堂皇的理由都是借口。
放弃其实并不比坚持容易多少，只是比较方便而已。
只是静静地听，沉默是最好的了。何必去解释什么，,The rare exception is no exception。
O(∩_∩)O Therare exception is no exception 再次翻出之前一篇影评，看完那部《He's not just into you》,印象最深的就是这句了。
The rare exception,she is the rule,and the rule is this,if a guy doesn'tcall you,he doesn't wanna call you,if a guy is treating you like he doesn't give a shit, generally doesn't give it a shit,no exception ."Alex's words"give her a lot to think about",then she figure it out:the rule is that guys who cheat on you don't care about you much."
"Spark",he said, is bullshit,guy sinvented the spark so they could not call and treat you kind of badly and keep you guessing ,then convinced you that anxiety and fear that just develops naturally...was actually just a spark and you guys all buy it,you eat it up andyou love it,you love it cuz you feed off drama,you all love that drama,so younever wait until the last minute on a deadline or a phone bill,cuz secretly youlove drama...of not knowing whether or not you are gonna make it?you might beconstantly pacing back and forth,staring at yr phone for days even though thedate was just kind of mediocre" sometimes it did tell the truth,girls likedreaming,like drama.
Gigi：You came all the way here at 11:00 at night to bring me back a promotional pen?
Alex：Yeah.I thought I should just come up with some really great excuse to get over here.That's how it's done, isn't it?
Gigi：Sometimes.
Alex：Look, I can't stop thinking about you. It's a problem. I drive by your place, I call and hang up. I'm turning into...
Gigi：Me.
Alex：Yeah.
Gigi：A wise person once told me...that if a guy wants to be with a girl, he will make it happen, nomatter what.
Alex：That'strue.
Gigi：But when I was hurling my body onto yours... you did not seem to want to make it happen.
Alex： Yeah, all right, here's the thing about that:You were right. I've gotten so used to keeping myself at a safe distance from all these women. And having the power that I didn't know what it felt like when I actually fell for one of them. I didn't know.
Gigi：Look, I just went out with your friend Bill and...Yeah, he might be just exactly what I need. No drama.He calls, he does what he says.
Alex:I can do that stuff too.
Gigi：But you didn't. And that same wise person told me that I am the rule. That I have to stop thinking that every guy will change.That I have to stop thinking that...
Gigi：I'm the exception.
Alex：You are my exception.
Maybe the ending is :knowing that through all the unreturned phone calls and broken hearts,through all the blunders and misread signals,through the pain and embarrassment you never never gave up hope,the you got true love.you won true love.
As there are a lot of communications between them,he care gigi's feeling at any time,he open all him to gigi, maybe this might be ideal, but communication is really very important in the life. No mind exchange,no common points communication,life is like a desert,maybe there is no love, esp,true love.Alex is smart,he understands women,he care gigi's inner thought,he finally knows what he wants and what he should do,he seems not a totally playboy,he remade himself.Not late than never.
Sometimes,when you believe true love,then it maybe reallycome true.all depend on yr attitude.
This is the ending:the exception to therule.still also a perfect love.
We all like perfect ending,but the real life is notperfect.love is no rule.it likes a two partnership company,it needs two partiescooperation,intercommunication,it needs you put yr heart into it,the thecompany will be managed well.
In a word,if you treat life true,life will repay you true,ifyou love life with your heart,god will love you and bless you so much.or viceverse,if you play life ,life will play you.
Love is somewhat like a flower,need fresh water,need watered with yr heart and soul.love need keep fresh,or life might becomevisual fatigue.
Life is a single choice,not multichoices,only you make the singlechoice good,then you can do better multichoices.only you know what you want,canyou know what you should do and what you should not. finally you own a betterlove,better work ,better life.
Love is a eternal topic,no body can tell it clearly,norules.different person have different love.true or not,bad or good,happy or not...all depend on the two parties attitude.if you believe it,if you put yourheart into it,then you will own your true love.if you know how to keep itfresh,if you how to adapt it with time and place,maybe you will lead a happyand great life.
女孩在成长的过程中会学到很多东西：
Girls are taught a lot of stiff growing up:
如果一个男孩欺负你，是因为他喜欢你。
If a guy pinches you, he likes you.
千万不要试着自己修剪刘海。
Never try to trim your own bangs.
然后有一天，你会遇到非常棒的男人，从此过着幸福生活。
And someday you will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending.
我们看的每场电影，听过的每个故事都告诉我们要耐心等待。
Every movie we see, every story we're told implores is to wait for it.
而第三类情况是：无法预知的爱情宣言，游离于规则之外。
The third act twist: The inexpected declaration of love.the exception to therule.
但有时我们太专注于寻找幸福。
But sometimes we're so focused on finding our happy ending.
我们没有学会如何读懂别人的暗示。
We don't learn how to read the signs.
如何分辨谁是真正爱我们的人。
How to tell the ones who want us from the ones who don't.
如何分辨这个人是不是只是生命中的过客。
The ones who will stay from the ones who will leave.
ˊ✿◡‿◡ˋTrueLove
I willcherish our friendship and love you today,tomorrow,and forever.
I will trust you and honor you.
I will laugh with you and cry with you.
I will love you faithfully.
Through the best and the worst,
Through the difficult and the easy.
What may come I will always be there.
As I have given you my hand to hold.
So I give you my life to keep.
So help me God.
Entreat me not to leave you,or to return from following after you,
For where you go I will go,and where you stay I will stay.
Your people will be my people,and your God will be my God.
And where you die,I will die and there I will be buried.
May the Lord do with me and more if anything but death parts youfrom me.
-----2011.10.8
爱的本质，也许是一种考验。考验彼此的明暗人性，考验时间中人的意志与自控。欢愉幻觉，不过是表象的水花。深邃河流底下涌动的黑暗潮水，才需要身心潜伏，与之对抗突破。人年少时不得要领，对人性与时间未曾深入理解，于是也就没有宽悯、原谅、珍惜。需要更长远的路途，迂回转折，来回求索，才能获得对自己与他人的释然。
回头观望来路，看到荆棘残余，血肉横飞残酷青春如同白色素绢上面，残剩斑斑血迹。我们最终获得内心的释然，能够把它们涂抹成一树自开自谢的桃花，自由一种深意和优雅。
一切原本有迹可寻，一切也只有尝尽甘苦之后，才能坦然自若。
而世界上所有的幸福，原本都是平庸的。也是细微的，琐碎的，脆弱的。如果包裹着我们的时间和历史，是一条壮阔河流，幸福是早晨折射在波浪上的云霞和日光，是深夜的月色和雨水。
有些人和事的出现，是为了在我们的世界里打开一扇门，照亮一条通道。让你知道，曾经在一个幽闭的房间里没有烛火而固执地寻觅，是多么辛劳。有一些洁白的真相和黑暗的阴影，一起出现，互相映衬。门被打开，通道被呈现。生命因此获得新的提示，得以前行。为之付出的代价，是必须要背负在身上的行囊。它警示你不能停留，但可以在路途中栖息，获取这幸福的光芒。
如同在旅馆的梨花树下小坐，清茶浅酌，花好月圆。爱着一个人，并且被之所爱。长路且行且远，心里有着单纯而有力的意愿。
这所有的一切都要担当，并且感恩和宽悯。
———安妮宝贝
很早之前就读过，不喜欢她的文风，却挺喜欢这篇，关于担当的，也忽然忆起狐狸和小王子。
O(∩_∩)O狐狸对小王子说
狐狸对小王子说：＂因为你把时间投注在你的玫瑰花身上，所以，她才会如此重要．＂
狐狸对小王子说：＂人类已经忘记这个简单的真理了．不过，你不可以忘记，你必须对那些你所驯养的东西负责．你必须对你的玫瑰花儿负责．”
狐狸对小王子说的这句话真的可以解释很多事情。
“我的秘密、、、它很简单，我们只有用心灵才能看得透彻，真正重要的东西是肉眼无法看见的”
是的，双眼是盲目的，我们必须要用心才能看得到、、、
所有冠冕堂皇的理由都是借口。
放弃其实并不比坚持容易多少，只是比较方便而已。
只是静静地听，沉默是最好的了。何必去解释什么，,The rare exception is no exception。
O(∩_∩)O Therare exception is no exception 再次翻出之前一篇影评，看完那部《He's not just into you》,印象最深的就是这句了。
The rare exception,she is the rule,and the rule is this,if a guy doesn'tcall you,he doesn't wanna call you,if a guy is treating you like he doesn't give a shit, generally doesn't give it a shit,no exception ."Alex's words"give her a lot to think about",then she figure it out:the rule is that guys who cheat on you don't care about you much."
"Spark",he said, is bullshit,guy sinvented the spark so they could not call and treat you kind of badly and keep you guessing ,then convinced you that anxiety and fear that just develops naturally...was actually just a spark and you guys all buy it,you eat it up andyou love it,you love it cuz you feed off drama,you all love that drama,so younever wait until the last minute on a deadline or a phone bill,cuz secretly youlove drama...of not knowing whether or not you are gonna make it?you might beconstantly pacing back and forth,staring at yr phone for days even though thedate was just kind of mediocre" sometimes it did tell the truth,girls likedreaming,like drama.
Gigi：You came all the way here at 11:00 at night to bring me back a promotional pen?
Alex：Yeah.I thought I should just come up with some really great excuse to get over here.That's how it's done, isn't it?
Gigi：Sometimes.
Alex：Look, I can't stop thinking about you. It's a problem. I drive by your place, I call and hang up. I'm turning into...
Gigi：Me.
Alex：Yeah.
Gigi：A wise person once told me...that if a guy wants to be with a girl, he will make it happen, nomatter what.
Alex：That'strue.
Gigi：But when I was hurling my body onto yours... you did not seem to want to make it happen.
Alex： Yeah, all right, here's the thing about that:You were right. I've gotten so used to keeping myself at a safe distance from all these women. And having the power that I didn't know what it felt like when I actually fell for one of them. I didn't know.
Gigi：Look, I just went out with your friend Bill and...Yeah, he might be just exactly what I need. No drama.He calls, he does what he says.
Alex:I can do that stuff too.
Gigi：But you didn't. And that same wise person told me that I am the rule. That I have to stop thinking that every guy will change.That I have to stop thinking that...
Gigi：I'm the exception.
Alex：You are my exception.
Maybe the ending is :knowing that through all the unreturned phone calls and broken hearts,through all the blunders and misread signals,through the pain and embarrassment you never never gave up hope,the you got true love.you won true love.
As there are a lot of communications between them,he care gigi's feeling at any time,he open all him to gigi, maybe this might be ideal, but communication is really very important in the life. No mind exchange,no common points communication,life is like a desert,maybe there is no love, esp,true love.Alex is smart,he understands women,he care gigi's inner thought,he finally knows what he wants and what he should do,he seems not a totally playboy,he remade himself.Not late than never.
Sometimes,when you believe true love,then it maybe reallycome true.all depend on yr attitude.
This is the ending:the exception to therule.still also a perfect love.
We all like perfect ending,but the real life is notperfect.love is no rule.it likes a two partnership company,it needs two partiescooperation,intercommunication,it needs you put yr heart into it,the thecompany will be managed well.
In a word,if you treat life true,life will repay you true,ifyou love life with your heart,god will love you and bless you so much.or viceverse,if you play life ,life will play you.
Love is somewhat like a flower,need fresh water,need watered with yr heart and soul.love need keep fresh,or life might becomevisual fatigue.
Life is a single choice,not multichoices,only you make the singlechoice good,then you can do better multichoices.only you know what you want,canyou know what you should do and what you should not. finally you own a betterlove,better work ,better life.
Love is a eternal topic,no body can tell it clearly,norules.different person have different love.true or not,bad or good,happy or not...all depend on the two parties attitude.if you believe it,if you put yourheart into it,then you will own your true love.if you know how to keep itfresh,if you how to adapt it with time and place,maybe you will lead a happyand great life.
女孩在成长的过程中会学到很多东西：
Girls are taught a lot of stiff growing up:
如果一个男孩欺负你，是因为他喜欢你。
If a guy pinches you, he likes you.
千万不要试着自己修剪刘海。
Never try to trim your own bangs.
然后有一天，你会遇到非常棒的男人，从此过着幸福生活。
And someday you will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending.
我们看的每场电影，听过的每个故事都告诉我们要耐心等待。
Every movie we see, every story we're told implores is to wait for it.
而第三类情况是：无法预知的爱情宣言，游离于规则之外。
The third act twist: The inexpected declaration of love.the exception to therule.
但有时我们太专注于寻找幸福。
But sometimes we're so focused on finding our happy ending.
我们没有学会如何读懂别人的暗示。
We don't learn how to read the signs.
如何分辨谁是真正爱我们的人。
How to tell the ones who want us from the ones who don't.
如何分辨这个人是不是只是生命中的过客。
The ones who will stay from the ones who will leave.
ˊ✿◡‿◡ˋTrueLove
I willcherish our friendship and love you today,tomorrow,and forever.
I will trust you and honor you.
I will laugh with you and cry with you.
I will love you faithfully.
Through the best and the worst,
Through the difficult and the easy.
What may come I will always be there.
As I have given you my hand to hold.
So I give you my life to keep.
So help me God.
Entreat me not to leave you,or to return from following after you,
For where you go I will go,and where you stay I will stay.
Your people will be my people,and your God will be my God.
And where you die,I will die and there I will be buried.
May the Lord do with me and more if anything but death parts youfrom me.
-----2011.10.8
