Big Boy in My Family
This summer, my nephew attended the College Entrance Examination. I knew it from his personal signature of Q-zone, a Chinese social network website (Although we have added each other for years, we seldom chat online) . "He has had the CEE!" At that moment, I felt shocked -- not by his exam, but by being aware of how long I haven't been concerned for him.
Lan Ning, my nephew, who was born in 1993, is now 19 years old. Nearly eight years, we met about once a year when I went hometown to have Spring Festival. His grandmother is the older, and only sister of my father. His father who is my cousin was brought up by my grandpa with my father. So the two families had close relationship even if my father was gone.
In my memory, he was a little shy every time I met him, esp. when he came to my home in the downtown, which is 5 km away from our village he was born and lived. But after I graduating from university when he entered vocational high school, something about him was told by my mother such as fighting with his classmates, crashing a pedestrian because of overspeed driving, and having a girlfriend at an early age.
Anyway, I didn't think that is abnormal for a teenager, because I was once a teenager and lived through what he has experienced. So when we met after all these hearsay, I didn't mention the fighting or accident, I just asked about whether he had a good time at school.
But now, several years passed. He has grown up beyond my awareness and reaction. I picked up a phone call to his father because his number in my phone has been close down. After talking about his recent exam and study, I invited him to Hangzhou for a holiday, and asked him to contact me when he is choosing the college.
The call ringed the day before yesterday's night. Then we communicated by QQ. We talked about his major "computer", which he has chosen during vocational high school, and the school he can take into consideration.
To be honest, as a vocational school for his major, my husband and I don't think computer is a good choice because this field needs more academic and professional technique but not the vocational school's education, which is better at mechanical teaching such motor mechanic and lathe manipulating.
But we expressed little about the concern, since as a the vocational high school graduate, he had to make a decision of what field he is going to compete for before the CEE, and it cannot be changed. On the other hand, I realized that he is interested in computer and network now ---- this is the best reason for the choice.
We made a list of the schools he can choose, and discuss the sequence of those schools on his application form. In the process of discussing, I felt his cautious and comprehensive, his logic and politeness ---- all these made me feel that he now is a grown up, a big boy of my family. And what can I do?
Thank goodness that I were not willing to push my will on him, and talked to him with respect and understanding all the time. I am 7 years older than him, I still remembered the surprise when I was called "aunt" in my 7 --- in my opinion, I was a sister rather than an aunt.
But now, he still calls me "aunt" natually, and I felt a kind of responsibility to help him go out of the village to see more, to learn more and if possible, to have a splendid life.
Lan Ning, my nephew, who was born in 1993, is now 19 years old. Nearly eight years, we met about once a year when I went hometown to have Spring Festival. His grandmother is the older, and only sister of my father. His father who is my cousin was brought up by my grandpa with my father. So the two families had close relationship even if my father was gone.
In my memory, he was a little shy every time I met him, esp. when he came to my home in the downtown, which is 5 km away from our village he was born and lived. But after I graduating from university when he entered vocational high school, something about him was told by my mother such as fighting with his classmates, crashing a pedestrian because of overspeed driving, and having a girlfriend at an early age.
Anyway, I didn't think that is abnormal for a teenager, because I was once a teenager and lived through what he has experienced. So when we met after all these hearsay, I didn't mention the fighting or accident, I just asked about whether he had a good time at school.
But now, several years passed. He has grown up beyond my awareness and reaction. I picked up a phone call to his father because his number in my phone has been close down. After talking about his recent exam and study, I invited him to Hangzhou for a holiday, and asked him to contact me when he is choosing the college.
The call ringed the day before yesterday's night. Then we communicated by QQ. We talked about his major "computer", which he has chosen during vocational high school, and the school he can take into consideration.
To be honest, as a vocational school for his major, my husband and I don't think computer is a good choice because this field needs more academic and professional technique but not the vocational school's education, which is better at mechanical teaching such motor mechanic and lathe manipulating.
But we expressed little about the concern, since as a the vocational high school graduate, he had to make a decision of what field he is going to compete for before the CEE, and it cannot be changed. On the other hand, I realized that he is interested in computer and network now ---- this is the best reason for the choice.
We made a list of the schools he can choose, and discuss the sequence of those schools on his application form. In the process of discussing, I felt his cautious and comprehensive, his logic and politeness ---- all these made me feel that he now is a grown up, a big boy of my family. And what can I do?
Thank goodness that I were not willing to push my will on him, and talked to him with respect and understanding all the time. I am 7 years older than him, I still remembered the surprise when I was called "aunt" in my 7 --- in my opinion, I was a sister rather than an aunt.
But now, he still calls me "aunt" natually, and I felt a kind of responsibility to help him go out of the village to see more, to learn more and if possible, to have a splendid life.
