双语小秘诀：五种克服困难继续前进的方法

okay, tell me what happened. did a lover reject you? did a friend betray you? didn’t get the job? the disappointments of life can knock us down. it’s not fair, and sometimes it’s downright cruel. however, you can rise above anything that happens to you if you get the right perspective. here are five ways to get up, get over it and move on。 　　好吧，跟我说说都发生什么事儿了。被爱人拒绝了？被朋友背叛了？丢工作了？生活中种种不如意真的可以打倒我们。可是，如果你能从正确的角度看问题，那不管发生什么事儿，你都能克服和战胜。今天给大家介绍五种站起来k克服困难继续前进的方法！ 　　feel the pain 　　感受伤痛 hiding your feelings or pretending that everything is okay will get you nowhere on the path toward healing. you’ve got to let it out. get mad if you’re angry. cry if you’re hurt. if you feel like you could just scream, do it. keeping it all bottled up inside will result in bitterness and depression; it can turn a one-time offense into a lifetime disposition。 　　如果隐藏情绪或者假装一切都很好，那么在治愈伤痛的道路上你将一无所获。你得让情绪释放出来。如果生气了就发次疯吧，如果受伤了就大哭一场吧。要是觉得自己只能尖叫，那就大声的叫出来。把所有的情绪都收起来藏在内心只会让你觉得痛苦和抑郁，也只会让偶然的情绪插曲写进一生的性格旋律中。 　　talk about it 　　谈谈吧 　　find a trusted friend or two and vent. an outside perspective may help you sort out your feelings. at the very least, it’s someone to sympathize with you and hold your hand。 找一两个信得过的朋友发泄下情绪。旁观者清，他们可以帮你整理情绪。至少有朋友在，就有人握着你的手同情你。 　　be wary of seeking closure 　　当心别作茧自缚 　　i think closure is over-rated. despite how much your bruised ego thirsts for it, trying to figure out what went wrong and who did what will not help. trust me, you don’t really want to know why someone rejected you. it’s like running back into a burning house to find out how the fire started. it's far too difficult to find the source, and you will inevitably get burned in the process. just walk away。 　　别高估了自我反省。不管你受伤的自尊有渴望想要知道真相，纠结着是哪里出了问题或者谁在中间捣鬼根本帮不了你。相信我，你不会想要知道为什么别人会拒绝你，打个比方，这就像家里正在着火，你跑回去只为了发现是哪里开始着火一样，火的源头太难发现了，而且你还可能会被烧死。安静走开就好。 embrace your new normal 　　拥抱新生活 　　sometimes disappointments come with a major change. divorce, loss of a job and such alter your day-to-day life. things simply aren’t the way they used to be. part of getting over the past is being fully in the present. you may have lost something, but you’ve also created space in your life for something new to come along. instead of pining for what used to be, enjoy what’s here now and look forward to what’s to come。 　　有时候跟着种种失落而来的是生活中的巨大改变，离婚、事业，诸如此类的事情改变了你的日常生活。一切就是跟过去不一样。要甩掉过去，就要充分投入到现在的生活中去。你也许会失去一些，但失去的东西在你生活留下的空缺，会有新东西来填满的。不要揪着过去不放，享受现在，期待未来吧。 更多精彩推荐： 广州华尔街英语学费 http://www.douban.com/group/topic/78742977/ 深圳英孚英语学习费用 http://www.douban.com/group/topic/78742119/ 广州英语培训机构费用 http://www.douban.com/group/topic/78739891/