what bad mental habits are holding you back?

these rob us our mental strength:

the first one is unhealthy beliefs about ourselves.-we tend to feel sorry about ourselves,And while it is ok to be sad when something bad happens,self-pity goes beyond that. it's when you start to magnify your misfortune.when you think things like ,"why do these thing always have to happen to me ?""i shouldn't have to deal with it "keeps you focused on the problem,keeps you from finding a solution.

the second one is unhealthy beliefs about the others-I have to work late,maybe there will be consequences if you don't work late.but it is still a choice,"my mother-in-law drives me crazy " you give away your power,Maybe she is not the nicest person on earth ,but it's up to you how you respond to her.because you are in control.

the third type of unhealthy belief that holds us back ,is unhealthy belief the world .we tend to think that the world owes us something ."IF I put in enough hard work,then i deserve success ,But expecting success to fall into your lap like some sort of cosmic reward .will only lead to disappointment."

it is hard to give up our bad mental habits.it is hard to get rid of those unhealthy beliefs,that we are carried around with us for so long.sooner or later ,you 're going to hit a time in your life where you need all the mental strength that you can muster.

it is not to be better, but to get rid of those small habits to get through one more loss.

sat down and I wrote a list of all the things mentally strong people do not do,that i had done at one time or another,that would keep me stuck.and I kept reading that list over and over.

my journey thought me that the secret to being mentally strong,was that you had to give up your bad mentally habits.mentally strength is a lot like physical strength.you'd need go to the gym and lift weights.but if you really wanted to see results,you'd also have to give up eating junk food.mental strength is the same,if you want to be mentally strong,you need good habits like practicing gratitude.but you also have to give up bad habits,like resenting somebody else's success,No matter how often that happens,it will hold you back.so ,how do you train your brain to think differently.it starts by countering those unhealthy beliefs that i talked about.

For example ,unhealthy beliefs about ourselves,mostly come about because we are uncomfortable with our feelings.feeling sad 、hurt,or angry ,or scared those thins are all uncomfortable so we go to great lengths to avoid that discomfort.by doing things like hosting a pity party,and although that is a temporary distractions,it just prolongs the pain.the only way to get through uncomfortable emotions,is you have to go through them,to let yourself feel sad ,and then move on to deal with that discomfort

Unhealthy beliefs about others come about because we compare ourselces to other people.we think that they're either above us or below us .or we think that they can control how we feel or that wecan control how they behave.or we blame them for holding us back. but really ,it is our own choics that do that.you have to accept that you're your own person,and other people are separate from you,the only person you should compare yourself to, is the person that you were yesterday.

And unhealthy beliefs about the world come about because deep down ,we want the world to be fair.we want to think that If we put in enough good deeds,enough good things will happen to us ,or if we tough it out through enough bad times, we will get some sort of rewards.But unltimately you have to accept that life is not fair,relieve.the world doesn't work that way ,you creat your world ,if you want to change it ,you have to believe that you can change it.

eg:and his world was shrinking ,He just didn't think it was worth the effort.but eventually he agreed to make one small change He said "I will give up my two liter-a-day pepsi habit" and he couldn't believe how quickly his numbers started to improve,and even though he come everyweek ,to remind me how horrible diet pepsi tasted,he stuck with it.And once he strarted to see a little bit of inprovement,he said "well maybe i could look at some of my other habits"maybe the damage done to his eyesight wasn't permanent.he was on fire,he finally believed that he could change his world,and that he had the mental strengh to change it .and that he could give up his bad mental habits,and it all started with just one small step