Manage your child's opposition: 10 tips

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    [已注销] 2011-08-12 13:25:02

    Manage your child's opposition:10 tips
    10招处理好孩子的反抗

    What is the role of self-esteem? It is the paramount in the mission of a parent to complete the education of his child. A parent who does not understand the opposition of her child, is not only normal but also essential in its development, is likely to experience difficult times. It is the same thing about how to manage disagreements that occur frequently with the child.
    自尊有多重要?自尊,是每一位父母完成教育孩子这一使命的过程中最重要的东西。成长过程中,孩子的反抗十分正常,也是必需的。父母如果没有意识到这一点,可能会过得很艰难。这一点与如何处理与孩子经常出现的分歧,道理是一样的。
    These disagreements exist and must allow the child to grow up at all points of view. In the adult it will to keep going and find the right balance between too much and not enough limits. A term often difficult but in the long term pays off. And if, by the way, sometimes you stumble or feel a little discouraged, you say that this reaction is very human. It is also the adventure of a child. Your child can also be offered the remainder of the thousands of moments of happiness and wonder daily.
    分歧总是存在的,父母必须让孩子在成长过程中,敢于提出各种各样的观点。父母要做的,是努力寻求一个平衡点,对孩子的约束,既不要太多也不能太少。这一过程十分艰难,但从长远来看是值得的。顺便提一下,有时你会踌躇不前,有时你会泄气,那么你应该对自己说,此乃人之常情也。这也是孩子成长过程中的小插曲。***。

    10 tips to give boundaries to your children
    10招划清你与孩子的界限
    1. Keep your coolness as much as possible. A child is better prepared to receive and understand a limit when the parent is calm but firm.
    1.尽可能冷静一些。如果父母表现得冷静而严厉,孩子会更为欣然地接受和理解大人给出的条条框框。
    2. Telling the child the reason for our discontent and make him understands what we expect of him.
    跟孩子讲明我们不满意的原因,并让他理解我们对他的期望。
    3. If not, it's not. No question of surrender. If the refusal is justified, the child will understand quickly and give him a reassuring sense.
    不行就是不行,父母绝不能退步。如果你拒绝孩子的理由充分,他很快就会理解并感到安慰。
    4. While some harsh words have escaped, taking the time to explain to our little loved one that anger has prevailed and we reiterate our love for him.
    有时我们语气过于严厉,那么过后就得耐心跟我们的宝贝解释说,愤怒已经过去了,我依然疼你。
    5. Connect to the first person singular: "I do not want you to scream," “I want you to get dressed now,” rather than “You're not nice," "You're pissing me off", etc.
    说话时要用第一人称单数形式,要说“我不想听你大嚷大叫”,“我命令你马上穿好衣服”,而不是说“你这样做没礼貌”,“你气死我了”之类的。
    6. Make the child understand that everyone has a clear role: he can do experiments and test its limits, but the parent who is still there to assist, monitor and must have the last word.
    要让孩子明确每个人的职责:他可以做各种实验并测试其局限性,但父母应该在一旁协助、监督,并且拥有最终决定权。
    7. When using punishment, it must be to the extent of the misconduct and not delayed. Love his childness, he is not able to do everything.
    惩罚孩子时,不能太过分,也不要耽搁,因为,纵容孩子的幼稚,他将一事无成。
    8. Never make false promises: a child, even tiny, develops confidence in her parents and they must remain consistent in their actions and their words.
    不要随便向孩子作出承诺:孩子即使很小,也会选择相信父母,所以父母应该言行一致。
    9. Establish a clear line between the two parents, the principles on which the education of their child based. Disagreeing with partner in front of the child or, worse, blamed a decision sends a very wrong message to children.
    父母亲之间要明确划分界限,这是教育孩子的基本原则。在孩子面前吵架甚至指责对方的决定,将给孩子传递错误的信息。
    10. Promote stability and consistency in the imposition of certain limits to our child. Even baby, he understands and feels everything. Until the age of two or three years, a sudden change of attitude among parents will make the child struggle to understand.
    给孩子强加某些限制时,要确保前后一致并持之以恒。婴儿也能够理解和感受周围的一切。孩子两到三岁大时,父母态度的悄然改变会让他们难以理解。

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    [已注销] 2011-08-12 13:25:24

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    2011-08-12 16:09:13

    Manage your child's opposition: 10 tips
    Written by Anna Selner
    让孩子听话的十招
    安娜·赛勒
    What is the role of self-esteem? It is the paramount in the mission of a parent to complete the education of his child. A parent who does not understand the opposition of her child, is not only normal but also essential in its development, is likely to experience difficult times. It is the same thing about how to manage disagreements that occur frequently with the child.
    自尊心有什么用?它在家长教育小孩的过程中最为关键。家长在小孩成长中如果不理解孩子的立场,那么遇到麻烦不仅是正常的而且不可避免。因此,家长要能够处理好和孩子之间不断产生的分歧。
    These disagreements exist and must allow the child to grow up at all points of view. In the adult it will to keep going and find the right balance between too much and not enough limits. A term often difficult but in the long term pays off. And if, by the way, sometimes you stumble or feel a little discouraged, you say that this reaction is very human. It is also the adventure of a child. Your child can also be offered the remainder of the thousands of moments of happiness and wonder daily.
    这些分歧的存在会让孩子全方面的发展。在成年后,这些分歧还会存在并使他们在过多和不足中找到平衡。分歧在短期内会让人难受,但受益无穷。顺便说一句,有时候你犯错了或者有点沮丧,你会安慰自己:这种反应很正常。孩子也需要这种体验。但孩子会更多地记住无数的快乐时刻和美妙时光。
    10 tips to give boundaries to your children
    让孩子守规矩的十招:
    Keep your coolness as much as possible. A child is better prepared to receive and understand a limit when the parent is calm but firm.
    1、尽可能地保持冷静。让孩子较早地接受并懂得父母的平静中包涵着威严。
    2. Telling the child the reason for our discontent and make him understands what we expect of him.
    2、告诉孩子你不同意的原因,并让他明白你对他的期望是什么。
    3. If not, it's not. No question of surrender. If the refusal is justified, the child will understand quickly and give him a reassuring sense.
    3、不行就不行,不要妥协。如果我们的拒绝是正当的,孩子会很快明白过来并让自己安心。
    4. While some harsh words have escaped, taking the time to explain to our little loved one that anger has prevailed and we reiterate our love for him.
    4、当刺耳的话已经说出,找时间告诉向我们可爱的孩子愤怒曾获胜,并重申我们对他的爱。
    5. Connect to the first person singular: "I do not want you to scream," I want you to get dressed now, rather than ''You're not nice," "You're pissing me off", etc.
    5、说话时用第一人称。比如“我不想听到你的尖叫声”、“我希望你马上穿好衣服”,而不是“你不好”、“你滚开”。
    6. Make the child understand that everyone has a clear role: he can do experiments and test its limits, but the parent who is still there to assist, monitor and must have the last word.
    6、让孩子知道每个人都有一个确定的角色:他可以尝试各种底线,但是父母必须呆在旁边协助、监督,并且一锤定音。
    7. When using punishment, it must be to the extent of the misconduct and not delayed. Love his childness, he is not able to do everything.
    7、当惩罚孩子时,必须在不端行为的范围内,而且要及时处罚。要爱你的孩子,因为他并不能做好任何事。
    8. Never make false promises: a child, even tiny, develops confidence in her parents and they must remain consistent in their actions and their words.
    8、不要做虚假的承诺。即使是很小的孩子也相信自己的父母,因此父母必须言行一致。
    9. Establish a clear line between the two parents, the principles on which the education of their child based. Disagreeing with partner in front of the child or, worse, blamed a decision sends a very wrong message to children.
    9、父母要明确各自的职责,在教育孩子上要有原则。在孩子面前互不服气,甚至争吵起来都会给孩子不好的影响。
    10. Promote stability and consistency in the imposition of certain limits to our child. Even baby, he understands and feels everything. Until the age of two or three years, a sudden change of attitude among parents will make the child struggle to understand.
    10、在给孩子某种限定时要保持稳定和一致,即使婴儿也了解和感觉得到这种限制。在孩子两三岁的时候,父母态度上的突然变化会让他很难适应。

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